Pride getting in my way at work.

nikki32

This site has helped me alot over the years but i rarely start a thread but feel the need for some advice. Here's my story.

After 17 years as manager in a job i was happy with the directors (of past two years) abandoned the company overnight leaving all 40 staff without wages for past month worked, also no redundancy or notice pay. The fallout was terrible for everyone. I found myself for the first time in my life unemployed. I lost my faith in people and my confidence. A new company opened up on premises with same type of business 3 months later and asked me to apply for position as supervisor.

Now a month into the job and i'm riddled with resentment. I am earning about £5000 less. Conditions are worst. Their daughter who has little experience, qualications or people skills has been appointed manager. The whole ethos of the workplace has changed for the worst. They are using all the documentation, policy and procedures i put into place and i think some customers returned because of my presence but i'll never get credit for it. infact i think the manager actually dislikes me and resents my input.

They advertised the job for 37 hours then offered me 25 and I accepted anyway. The first 3 weeks i was given 27 1/2 hours then down to 25 with no explanation. I assusssed the extra hours where to get things up and running and i felt they were needed. Then in my payslip i noticed i was paid agreed rate of pay for the 25 hours each week and then minimum wage for the rest. I worked damn hard past 4 weeks so I was very annoyed. I was also under assumption my months wage would be paid into my bank account friday but then they give me a cheque which won't clear until next thur. this after hardship this past few months has left me in serious trouble.
Because of this, other work problems (i won't bore you with) and money worries, i took pains in my chest and a severe headache. i felt on verge of a panic attack all weekend. I should be glad I have work but i'm so unhappy and feel so cheated. i'm a perfectionist and i know this is also causing me trouble.

I would love advice from people who don't know me.
My husband and family want me to leave even if it means a different career they see the life's blood draining out of me. but after 17 years i have nothing to show for my hardwork and effort. You might tell me to suck it up!! I would love some words of wisdom. Sorry for such a long post

jonjb_2

i would love to comment on all the above but i think you've answered it yourself. If you're after words of wisdom then never get up in the morning for something you don't enjoy. I think you already know this but want someone else to tell you.

Goldblend_2

Poor you


I can only imagine how stressful and frustrating this must be for you. :mad:

You sound like a great person to have in any workplace.;)

but I think
1. Yes they don't deserve you, you should leave but..

2. I'd be worried about leaving due to cash flow - what is the job market like where you are?

3. Could you try to find another job whilst still there.. easier said than done when your working I know.

4. I think by saying get over it you are being to harsh on yourself would be difficult for anyone..

Try not to worry to the point where you get poorly

Wishing you a big :kisses:

PM if you need to Rant..:rotfl: but I have had so much support on here I am sure others with braver opinions than mine will be along soon.

andygb

Bad luck Nikki, unfortunately this sort of thing is very common nowadays, and it makes experienced staff (loyal, hard working staff) feel humiliated. I can never understand the logic of suddenly appointing young, inexperienced family members in key positions, it makes no sense whatsover, and usually ends in tears.
You have to decide if you can stick it out, because the alternatives at the moment are few and far between.
Good luck.

Sambucus_Nigra

Be a perfectionist elsewhere - start on your CV and don't look back.

We could all say we have worked for 17 years or more with nothing to show from it; but you have been paid and have a home and family. Get out of there ASAP and get yourself a better job.

xxJudexx

You don't have nothing to show for it. If you are only doing 25 hours a week use the other time to work on your CV. I bet you have some great transferable skills, be inventive when thinking of them! I find this hard too but big yourself up!
Good luck!

pinkshoes

Put your health first, go and see a doctor, and get yourself signed off for a bit. Use the time to re-assess your employment situation.

If it's any consolation, I'm almost 33 and have just quit my career and am retraining!

nikki32

After reading comments this morning I felt more settled. I had just got myself in a state - I've been doing that lately.

I've just applied for another job in same field more hours and better wages and conditions. Also there's another job similar to what i'm getting paid only more hours. I hope the years of experience will stand by me plus i'm on second year of p/t degree related to my area of work (will be 41 when I graduate!).

I'm going to bide my time in the job until i get another, do my work well and not sweat the small stuff - as they say. I should never have gone back but i had to find that out for myself - the hard way. It's the change that scares me the most.

It's good to get advice from people other than my family but surprisingly the advice is so similar. Thanks xx

ohreally

You need to walk. Don't analyse the situation to death, don't work on an exit strategey, just walk, or you will forever be their doormat and become consumed with the situation.

Go while you can.