Mad.Angry.Mad.Angry.

bexiboo92

Never felt so angry with myself, life, everything and everyone in it before.


I'm so mad at myself for getting into £4500 worth of debt for what reason?
So mad for being stubborn and not admitting defeat when i should have.
So mad for staying in this relationship when I just feel like a rag doll.
So mad for being with someone who doesn't understand the importance of the credit rating and the fact that LIVING TOGETHER has DEMOLISHED mine.
So angry with myself for getting into such a mess and still not getting out of it.

So mad with myself for feeling so heart broken and hurt.

falldown7timesgetup8

Hi Bexi Boo,

I think a lot of people have read your thread, and perhaps not known how to respond. I dont really know either to be honest. But here are some things i do know:

You got into debt simply because you made a mistake. It’s easy to do - just look at all of the people on this thread. People of all backgrounds and incomes have found themselves in the same situation - You are not alone.
You haven't admitted defeat because you are NOT defeated. There is always a way out of debt, and a solution to every problem.
Speaking from experience, feeling like a ragdoll in a relationship is not acceptable. You are worth far more I can assure you. I lived with someone who believed that you should use every card as much as possible until it got declined, boost your income with Payday Loans, and spend with no thought for the consequences. What YOU do with your relationship is absolutely no one’s business but your own, but in my case, (along with other reasons) I made the decision that someone like that could not be an equal and supportive life partner. My life is now turning around and changing immeasurably - all for the better.

All of the above are not reasons to be mad at yourself and tear yourself to pieces. They are a starting point. It is clear you know what you want, and what you want to change. The hardest thing (cliche sorry) is often taking the first step.

You have my support, and i’m sure the support of others on this thread. If we can help, we will.
Good Luck x

bexiboo92

falldown7timesgetup8 wrote: »

Hi Bexi Boo,

I think a lot of people have read your thread, and perhaps not known how to respond. I dont really know either to be honest. But here are some things i do know:

You got into debt simply because you made a mistake. It’s easy to do - just look at all of the people on this thread. People of all backgrounds and incomes have found themselves in the same situation - You are not alone.
You haven't admitted defeat because you are NOT defeated. There is always a way out of debt, and a solution to every problem.
Speaking from experience, feeling like a ragdoll in a relationship is not acceptable. You are worth far more I can assure you. I lived with someone who believed that you should use every card as much as possible until it got declined, boost your income with Payday Loans, and spend with no thought for the consequences. What YOU do with your relationship is absolutely no one’s business but your own, but in my case, (along with other reasons) I made the decision that someone like that could not be an equal and supportive life partner. My life is now turning around and changing immeasurably - all for the better.

All of the above are not reasons to be mad at yourself and tear yourself to pieces. They are a starting point. It is clear you know what you want, and what you want to change. The hardest thing (cliche sorry) is often taking the first step.

You have my support, and i’m sure the support of others on this thread. If we can help, we will.
Good Luck x

Thank you for the reply.
I don't expect people to know what to say; just needed to vent somewhere where people I have to deal with on a daily basis won't read it.

Hate having these feelings

forgotmyname

Got a shredder? Worked wonders for me

Bills? What bills? I dont have any.

Short lived but does lift your spirits briefly.

Debt in joint names or joint accounts?

pink_pirlie

I wish you lots of luck and motivation!!
I was also not in a happy relationship and left with a mountain of debt when I finally decided enough was enough.
Budget, work hard and you will get there!! I have done and I can honestly say it was worth it in the end. You will come out the other end a stronger person.
There will be days when it all gets too much, don't dwell on these. Think about all the good times you have to look forward to, when all the money you are paying off debt will be money to save / spend as you see fit!!
Good luck!!

HeadAboveWater

BIG *hug*

I'm so mad at myself for getting into £4500 worth of debt for what reason? You had your reasons at the time, when money and credit ratings weren't an issue. The point is, you've had your LBM and you're working to clear that debt

So mad for being stubborn and not admitting defeat when i should have It's not defeat. But realising your 'mistakes' is better late than never. You're now at a point where you can see exactly where you are, and can do something about it.

So mad for staying in this relationship when I just feel like a rag doll. You're better than that and worth far more than you think. You deserve someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated - with love and respect. Don't ever settle for second best.

So mad for being with someone who doesn't understand the importance of the credit rating and the fact that LIVING TOGETHER has DEMOLISHED mine. Until such time as he has his LBM you'll kinda be on your own with this unfortunately Living together got you into this mess. To get yourself out again...?

So angry with myself for getting into such a mess and still not getting out of it. Like I said before, you can change things. It's never too late

So mad with myself for feeling so heart broken and hurt You have to stand up and take control. You're letting yourself be hurt time and time again. You're letting someone else get the better of you. And as I've quoted before: 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent (Eleanor Roosevelt)'

Please don't give up on yourself. You're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You can see what is 'wrong' in your life, and you've got the chance to change it and make it better. You have so much potential and that shouldn't go to waste. Make the most of life. You only get one chance. Grap it with both hands!!

I read this article recently. Don't let any of them be your regrets.

downsizer3

Yup - think a few of us can identify.
I got dragged down too by an ex and his debts - its taken me nearly two years to get back on my feet but I have and you will too.
That first step is getting out of the relationship, then deal with the rest of it.
Venting on here is what'll get you through - along with your spirit and a bucket load of practical advice.
When you're ready - give us an idea of what your debts are, and what is yours alone or shared - the practical help can start there.