In haste i resigned

tinshed

6 weeks in ive resigned from my job and im now regretting doing so. I live away mon-fri in a a house share which i detest simply because id rather be at home with my family. The job wasnt as expected and i was basically thrown in at the deep end with no formal training given. Its quite a stressful position where you have to get it right or theres dire consequences.The company arent interested in rectifying any of the concerns i have raised and simply tell me to ring a number if i require help with something i dont understand(an outside body). Besides dealing with that my wife hates the fact im away and cries constantly , she only sees me on a Sunday due to the fact she works a Saturday. So in haste i quit. After a years unemployment before securing this job i now feel that ive made a mistake in resigning. My wifes unhappy, im unhappy and really dont know what to do for the best.

passatrider

Bit of a drastic thing to do, but done it myself so know what you must be feeling. Sounds like it wasn't right for you anyhow.

Chalk it down to experience as tomorrow's another day

sniggings

Ask to withdraw it, if they allow it then you can use the time to look for a new job, thats if you need the money, if money is not the main concern then I think you have done the right thing, what kind of life is working away for the week and seeing your loved ones only one day a week.

I think you should be patting yourself on the back, not having second thoughts.

Pricivius

You need to have a good long think about your options.

If you seriously want to go back and commit yourself to the job (and it doesn't sound like you really want to), it may be worth asking them if you can have your job back. They can only say yes or no so there's no harm in asking. Explain that you resigned hastily and that you would appreciate a second chance BUT don't mess them around. Think long and hard and talk it through with your wife.

Good luck with this job or the next job that comes along.

marywooyeah

move back home and get another job? it must cost a lot to live away during the week and if it's making your family miserable it's not worth the hassle.

princessdon

How you feel about the job aside your wife should support your decision. I have young children and my OH works away, it's part of being a couple making sacrifices. If you are both unhappy that is a different matter, but you need to pay the bills and she needs to accept that as a man you are doing what you need to do.

Talk it through with her (no job is worth stress in a relationship) but working away can be beneficial - especially if short term giving skills and experience and looking for a closer to home job.

DVardysShadow

tinshed wrote: »

My wifes unhappy, im unhappy and really dont know what to do for the best.

What is done is done. But now you and your wife have to pull together and make decisions of this sort as a team.

If she was unhappy that you were away and is unhappy now that you have resigned, that is unfair on you. But if you resigned without involving her in the decision, you have been unfair on her.

There is no answer you are going to find on a forum which will make you both happy if the problem is really that you are not making the decisions together and understanding each other's issues


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TrickyWicky

Well I've done it plenty of times myself - walked from a job. Do I regret it? Yes, I do regret it with some of them but they all made life hell in various ways.

Whats done is done. You're out of there, your missus hated you being away and missed you and frankly, its better that you muddle through the tough times together rather than never see each other.

There isn't really a right or wrong here that you're going to get out of any of us. As I mentioned a moment ago, whats done is done and your best way forward is to try and find something else and put the last job down to a bad experience. Move on and hope something else turns up.