Don't know what to do... lying/cheating??

Caroline_a

OP what pets do you have?

threemuttleys

Sweetheart. ((Hugs))

Do you want to wake up in 10 years time, in the same place as you are right now? Or worse, this guy sounds freaky.

Please call Womens Aid (They may even accept emails, if you cannot call) but you need to get help and you need to get out. Not tomorrow, not next week but ASAP.

I dont know where in the country you are, or what pets you have, but there are organistions out there who can help (if thats what is stopping you?)

More ((hugs)) Good luck, we are all here to help you xx

pearl123

Purplerain,
Please do seek help for your agoraphobia problem, plus other issues. I know someone who did not bother to seek help, as they had a partner who was suppportive. Fourty-seven years later she still is trapped in her home because she ignored the problem and accepted her problems as being the norm. (The partners is long gone and now the reality of her mistake is very apparent to her.)

Why make your house your prison - when you can get help for it?

Control over food very often happens when the rest of you life is out-of-control.
Purplerain find your self-preservation and get some help from your GP or local mental health team - please.

thehappybutterfly

Thinking about you today PurpleRain and hoping you feel a bit better today. Quite possibly you're feeling a little overwhelmed but just take one piece of advice at a time, one day at a time. Phone your GP and Women's Aid - I think once you speak to them and tell them what's going on you will feel a million times better. It's better out than in I always say! They will not think badly of you - they will think you're a brave person for seeking help - it's not an easy thing to do holding your hand out and asking for help when you're not used to it.

And make sure you come on here when you can and let everyone know you're OK.

And to hell with the healthy diet - sometimes in these difficult times, chocolate is the only cure!

VitaK

I can't get past the padlock.

HeadAboveWater

Just seen this thread and want to reply... But a bit stuck for words at the minute! Didn't want to not write anything though

I agree with this...

Fire_Fox wrote: »

I just saw you don't think you have friends, you DO on MSE - ok so they are not regular friends but they are supportive and they do care. You are not the only one with mental health issues, not the only one in a unhealthy relationship, far far from it. ((hugs))

You'll never be alone! We'll all help, support and encourage you in any way we can. Hang in there.

*hug*

Keeping_Motivated

Hi just wanted to say do not underestimate the power of small steps. I know you are going through a lot with your partner at the moment but I would advise to take the focus off him for a little while and do everything you can to conquer your anxiety/panic attacks.

Read and educate yourself on them. Join on line discussions about them. Use downloads. This is your first step to changing your situation because at the moment your irrational fear is keeping you stuck in this situation.

Remember the saying 'Face the fear and the death of fear is certain'....in other words your panic is tricking you, it is a faulty alarm system going off at the wrong time.

So when the alarm system goes off, look around and see you are safe, tell yourself you are safe, this has happened before, it is a false alarm and it will pass like it has every other time. The more you talk to yourself like this during a panic attack the more your symptoms will listen to 'your' voice/command and it will ease the symptoms quicker and lessen them.

Good luck

thehappybutterfly

VitaK wrote: »

I can't get past the padlock.

Isn't that the point - boom boom!

Scorpio33

The guy doesn't love you. In fact, I would question if he even likes you.

You have low self-esteem, and one of the contributing factors to this (if not the major one) I would say is the fact that you are with him.

Finish with him, get away from him (or get him away from you), and slowly slowy learn to Love yourself and be happy by yourself. He is bringing you down and making things worse for you.

Only when you are happy in your own skin can you find a good relationship which you can be truely happy in.

sammyjammy

I'm so upset for you reading your posts as well as angry that you've had someone that supposedly is your life partner make you feel this way.

Everyone here is on your side and we'll do everything we can to help but you need the support of real life people like Womens Aid to get you past this in parctical ways and support you in being brave.

Take care.
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