Another CSA question

Mojisola

WYSPECIAL wrote: »

That sounds a reasonable compromise then if he changes his mind he will be able to get the extra he has paid back by having his future payments cut.

If he's not willing to go with this, he probably has some ulterior motive that you haven't worked out yet in which case you're better off staying with the CSA.

kevin137

There could be numerous motives for doing this, he may be trying to get a mortgage for example, and as mortgages are hard to get anyway now, a deduction from any income at source is not going to look good on any application, especially a low income application.

All you can do is what is right for you, if you are not in it for the money, then let sleeping dogs lie, and go back and revisit in a year or so.

As ofr letting the CSA make the assessment but paying direct, that is not such a good idea, it may be an assessment by them, but i am not too sure if maintenance direct can rack up arrears if he stops paying. Phone and ask.

You could always allow them to accept payment by direct debit to give hime some room with wage slips etc, but the case would remain open and arrears would accrue if he stopped paying that way...

Sensemaya

Print out the 'sample form' provided in this link and tell him you will consider a private agreement if he signs this form which is legally binding:

http://www.resolution.org.uk/editorial.asp?page_id=335

You would also have to include any arrears accrued through the CSA. Why should he not pay them?

Also stress you will go to the small claims court to recover payment if he defaults which is a lot quicker than recovery via CSA.

You are right to trust your instincts. Something fishy going on here.And I wager once he reads that form he will not be happy.

Edit: £35 per week equals £1820 per year. Ask for £140 by Standing Order to be paid on the 1st of the month IN ADVANCE. You then have the rest of the month to chase him if he defaults. I wouldn't budge on this.

If he won't agree stick with the CSA.

themull1

I wouldnt trust him for a second, he pays nowt for ten years then tries to buy you out by promising the world? if you close the CSA down, you will have to pay for a new case to be opened. Leave things as they are.

pammii

I agree totally with themull1, I wouldn't trust him to pay, because he could cancel the direct debit at any time or just not pay on time because of an unexpected expense or simply forgot, where would that leave you then. If you wanted to go down the CSA road again it would mean doing assessments, getting him to comply, etc. Leave it with the CSA, if he don't like it tough. As for upsetting him, come on, he's dodged his responsibilities for long enough don't you think. Your child deserves to be supported and it isn't up to these absent parents to decide when and if they can be bothered.

ginjill

To cut a long story short, i am a single mum to 3 kids 17 (a levels) and 14 and 12. I have been single for 10 years, during this time ex has had bipolar diagnosed. his business resulted in him getting a IVA years ago which he paid off in a lump sum due to inheritence. We lost our house, i had tp move miles away from my work and kids schools.
He currently pays £5 weekly, allegedy he gets DLA due to mental illness. He runs a car ect. I know for a fact that he is back working in the family business, my daughter has a Saturday job there, both get paid cash in hand. He refuses to give me any money because his controlling family think i will go out.. and party on it!! What a joke.
I have told him i will inform the CSA, but he retorts he buys the kids things, yes, when they need certain items like a coat or ice skates!!
I know if i go to the Csa, his family will deny he is working there and ultimately he wont have the money for the odd treat for my kids...im so angry but im afraid the kids will ultimately suffer, as myself entered into an IVA 6 months ago because i couldnt cope fiancially, im a parttime nurse with breast cancer..
I am at my wits end

Please has anyone any advice??

Jill