Etiquette: Gifts Received Before the Wedding

Roz_V

A quick etiquette question for you all...

Our wedding is not for another 8 weeks but my Aunt has sent us a fairly sizeable cheque to put towards our honeymoon which we have received today.

Do I send a thank you card/note now? As part of our wedding package from our photographer we get a number of personalised thank you cards with an image of our day, which I think my aunt would really like, however obviously I can't send that until after the wedding! Should I send a little note now and then a proper card afterwards? That's my inclination but just wanted to get others' thoughts.

Thanks in advance

MrsDrink

We verbally said thank you for the contribution and then sent a proper thank you card after the wedding as we weren't just thanking them for the contribution but also for all their support for the past 13 years and their role in our big day

Torry_Quine

I would definitely send a thank you now as it's quite a while till the wedding . After the wedding the official thank you card would be a lovely touch.

midnightraven3

i would just be truthful

Auntie xxxxx

thank you so much for your wonderfully generous gift, xxxx & i will put it towards our honeymoon (add in any extra bits you wish here)
We will have personal photograph thank you cards from our big day which you will of course receive but we wanted to say an extra special thank you now to you

looking forward to seeing you on the xxth

something along those lines in a letter or card now would be appreciated i am sure

johannalf88

We sent an informal thank you (email / txt etc), but will send out proper cards after.

Roz_V

Thanks all for the advice will send a note now and an "official" card after the day

fawny

I'm glad you asked this Roz as we are starting to get cards in from people who were invited but can't come & I was wondering if we should acknowlege now or wait until we get back & do them all together with photos.

minerva_windsong

I would send an informal thank you card/note now and then send the personalised cards after the wedding, thanking her for coming to the day and also saying something like 'Thank you again for your very generous gift' and what if anything you might/have put it towards, eg if it paid for your flights or an upgrade on your accommodation.

Roz_V

fawny wrote: »

I'm glad you asked this Roz as we are starting to get cards in from people who were invited but can't come & I was wondering if we should acknowlege now or wait until we get back & do them all together with photos.

Exactly, I didn't want to seem ungrateful and ignore them until after the wedding, but I really wanted to send out the personalised ones! Two cards it is