Preparedness for when

jk0

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

I so know that feeling DOVELING, we viewed a house not too far from here in another village and as I walked through the door for the first time I felt exactly that, the house welcomed me in and gave me a hug like a friend who'd been waiting for me to arrive. It got stronger as a feeling as we went round the property and we loved it and knew we wanted to live there, unfortunately about an hour after we got home we rang the estate agent who had the property on their books to say yes we'd love to buy the house, full price, no haggling and he'd been in process of ringing us to apologise because the owners had seen their house through our eyes and decided they couldn't move and taken it off the market. I drive past it fairly often on the way to other places and still feel that little point of warmth as I go by and we're happy enough here.

Ah, sorry to hear that Mrs L. That's property buying 101:

However much you love the house, you need to keep a poker face, and not get too excited until you are out of sight. This is so a lowish offer is not rejected. If it is, you have to pretend to the estate agent that you want to look at other houses that you could buy at a similar price.

I loved this house, but did the above. The agent came back to me to accept my offer as soon as I asked to see another place.

Been here ten years now, and still love this house.

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl:at the thought of me checking out houses for you Doveling then:rotfl:. I'm more of a "best financial bet affordable" type househunter and "falling in love with a house" is something I read about other people feeling:rotfl:. Hence being someone who zooms in on "best deal there is for available money" house when looking personally...

But - yes - I think it must be very nice to have a house feel comfortable/be "in love with it"/etc. Maybe that's something that only happens to people who haven't been uprooted at intervals in childhood? and the message transmitted is "Don't get attached - its a house we are living in and not a Home"???

I do think Homes must be nice though:). Hmmm....log fire/sheltered and private garden/farmhouse kitchen...

Though I do know I've chosen the house I would buy if a lottery win came up - if its still on the market - and I've not viewed inside it.

fuddle

I just think that money affords you what you so desire. Without it you don't get what you desire.

Still, I don't think money can give you happiness. I think happiness is born out of the ability to make the very best out of whatever situation you're in.

thriftwizard

fuddle wrote: »

I just think that money affords you what you so desire. Without it you don't get what you desire.

Still, I don't think money can give you happiness. I think happiness is born out of the ability to make the very best out of whatever situation you're in.

That's a very profound statement & I absolutely agree with it! As Oscar Wilde said, "There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it." You may desire something, and frantically, but when you've actually got it, it may turn out to be (at the very least) not quite the unalloyed blessing you thought it would be...

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You're so right FUDS all I need to make me totally complete is He Who Knows, My Girls and son in law and my Zebra child, a warm dry coat, a waterproof pair of shoes, somewhere to keep me warm and dry and a meal to put on the table, all else is nice but NOT essential. Yes it's nice to have things you like and that give you pleasure but right at the sharp end it's family at the top isn't it?

cbrown372

ivyleaf wrote: »

How lovely Doveling I remember when DD2 was househunting, I told her she'd know when she found the right house because when they walked in for the first time it would feel like coming home. That was what happened when we viewed this one

Mrs LW What a shame you missed out on that house, but as you say, at least you're happy enough where you are.

That made me smile as when I was offering on a house (offers over in Scotland) I didn't get one I really wanted and my Mum said, whats for you won't go past you! I wasn't best pleased at the homily at the time but she was right, I got a house I really loved in the end. Mum's are always right

Doveling

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

:rotfl:

But - yes - I think it must be very nice to have a house feel comfortable/be "in love with it"/etc. Maybe that's something that only happens to people who haven't been uprooted at intervals in childhood? and the message transmitted is "Don't get attached - its a house we are living in and not a Home"???

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That is so sad. Have a (((((MTSTM))))). Of course you would be good at househunting for someone. There is kindness in your intent.:)

For me, money equates to choice and freedom.
I read the Oscar Wilde quote as meaning that life is hard when you do not achieve what you have been striving for but if you do achieve it, then you may not have purpose in life any longer.

For me, continued contentment is the aim

elona

I made the mistake of not being poker faced when I viewed the house I made an offer on. I offered £5K over the "offers over" which I thought was fair and they came back wanting £25 K more :eek: As the lounge and kitchen were small, carpets and decor 30 years old etc and very old fashioned I politely declined.

I saw a proper chalet bungalow the other day that had just gone on the market and view it next week. Big lounge, better size kitchen etc and more modern in way of carpets and decor etc. Fingers crossed that it feels like a "happy house" when I see it. Funnily enough it is in one of the streets that DH had mentioned he thought were the best in the town (quiet yet good bus service etc). Feels as if he is still looking after me.

fuddle

I'd just like to pick up on the quoted text above from MTSTM re: children who are uprooted at intervals in childhood not feeling like the house they are living in is home.

I would like to put forward that it doesn't matter who owns the house, it's the people inside, their attitudes, their take on life, their love for one another and again, positivity, that builds a home. My husband and I are doing the very best we can to instil a sense of 'life will throw allsorts at you kids, it's how you deal with it that makes you'

I lived in the same house until I was 24 years old. It was owned by my parents. My dad died when I was 10 and my mam subsequently slipped down the route of alcoholism. Just because I lived in the same 4 walls for 24 years didn't make me a happy child. What went on in those 4 walls shaped me in a negative way. It had nothing to do with moving/not moving, renting or mortgaged.

I really would like you to be a fly on the wall and see how we live MTSTM and our values. You might just soften a little in your own views. You've been around this thread as your current username for a long time now. I just wish you would interact with us warmly instead of writing things that you know will get people's backs up. There's no need.

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl:I tend to work on basis of having little mini-goals in mind (ie ones that, quite definitely, are achievable regardless). So Big Goals get "put on the backburner" (ie rather than shelved completely).

Mini-goals get put on a list and ticked-off as they are achieved. If its a big enough "win" to warrant it - then a bottle of champagne marks the occasion to reward myself. Will admit to "cheating" a bit on that one - as in having a "reward" for things that the sheer process of enough time elapsing brings anyway (so the last :beer: was for having got to revised State Pension Age finally). Next bottle is due January = 4 little mini-achievements in one month (1 of which is just down to "sheer passage of time" and 3 are down to my efforts to achieve them). I figure two more bottles of champagne are due next year (both for effort on my part).

Must think of some reasons (excuses:rotfl::beer:) for "reward" after that. After next year I can just think of one further on - the bottle of champagne for my house being completely finished (that looks set to take several years to save up spare income for that...:cool:).

One phrase I like is "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time".

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But yep...offer to househunt still there on the table - if you don't mind a rather different approach to it:rotfl:. You could give me list of requirements and amount of money available and I could come up with shortlist and recommendation as to which. It would be up to you to see if you "fall in love with" any of them then...

If I had a car - I will admit I would be giving serious thought to making extra income by setting myself up in business as a professional House Hunter for people.