Has debt made you leave something that you knew wasn't right for you anymore?

bexiboo92

Has debt been the final nail in a coffin for a bad relationship?

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Whilst a little different to a relationship or maybe not, debt made me leave my comfortable long service job which I was vitually married to once upon a time! :sad: the stress got to much to bear, I was in a money handling role and everyday I'd sit at my desk thinking non stop about my debt problems even after I had cleared a big balk, it still didn't help, I become transfixed at the cost of my life - and for loved ones it is very off putting and frustrating I know

So I changed jobs/industry (something completely different) which people would say was many times harder but their wrong even though I now don't bring home enough money I found out what matters the most, and it isn't loosing sleep over debt or credit, what if's, I actually now feel surprisingly calmer even if the odd's say this is a worser position

Please be careful - you can make yourself really ill all this thinking and analysing, don't make rash decisions - maybe try counselling and give it some time (time is a great healer after all) x

rdchick

It was for me in some ways. The relationship I was in before now wasn't amazing, but it just got worse as his debt problems increased. I wanted to move back to our parents to save money but he didn't want to admit to his mum that he was in a bad financial state. Which meant moving back to our home town to save money on travel etc. I was a student at the time and he had a full time job yet I was the one working 3 jobs plus my final year at uni just to keep our heads above water. Needless to say that this is why I am now in a financial mess as I have had to take out more credit that I can afford etc. I left him just after I helped set up a DMP with CCCS and 2 years later I am now in contact with CCCS! So yeah, debt was the final nail in the coffin for that relationship! xxx

bargainbetty

It was the nail in a coffin for a short relationship for me. I had been working to get myself into a comfortable position, and managed to get some savings set aside too. A boyfriend had a financial crisis, as he was living massively outside his means. He asked me for help, and I offered to sort out his bills, get him set up with direct debits, negotiate his contracts etc - moneysaving tricks! He told me that was his business and by helping he meant loan him £1.5k from my savings. I pointed out that he had no way of paying me back. He told me that couples support each other through rough times and that I'd not miss it, because compared to him I was 'minted'. I had known the man for two months!

He told me that if I wouldn't trust him with my money, then he should probably just leave. I told him not to let the door bump his a*se on the way out. Not a great loss, if I'm honest.

I can live with debt, mine or someone else's, but his attitude to money (his and mine) was never going to make it a lasting relationship.

swampduck

My crunch moment for my relationship hit me when my now ex-husband said he would keep running up debts to keep me with him!!

Swampy

carrielovesfanta

I think that it really depends on the relationship. My Oh is terrible with money but he is kind and supportive. In 6 years we have been together, I have been angry, frustrated and disappointed with him but I have never thought that my life would be better without him. Life is too short to be unhappy an if someone is continually failing to step up to the mark it is time to reconsider.