Wedding Present - Cash

shaz77_2

Hi All,

I've 2 wedding coming up for friends of mine and I plan to give both parties cash, what is a respectable amount? I'm not in the good books with one of my friends as I went missing for most of their pre wedding party weekend (the demon drink) so I'm determined to get this right.

Thanks in advance

wanchai_2

About £100?

p.s. are you bringing a +1?

Mojisola

It depends on what you earn and what spare money you have available.

I've given £50 to family members at recent weddings.

To be honest, if someone got upset at me for reasons like that, I'd be thinking about how genuine a friend they are.

shaz77_2

Bringing someone to 1 of the weddings but I'm going alone to the second (really dreading that).

wanchai_2

I would give more when bringing a +1 (well, OH). It's also influenced by how much you can afford.

Mojisola

shaz77 wrote: »

Bringing someone to 1 of the weddings but I'm going alone to the second (really dreading that).

Why are you going to a social event that you're dreading?

shaz77_2

Mojisola wrote: »

Why are you going to a social event that you're dreading?

It's a good friend and I'm going because I'm really happy for him, however being on your own at a wedding is very very tough.

wanchai_2

Why didn't they allow you a +1? Will you know other friends at the wedding? If not, that's very unfair of them xx

shaz77_2

Well I guess they knew I was single, anyway I was thinking around £150 for each wedding so I seem to be on the money.

laura_hoggle

OH and I went to 2 weddings last weekend - one a good school friend of his, and the other a uni friend of mine. We gave OH's school friend £60 and my uni friend £50 between us. Had we not had to factor in hotels (costing £160 for one wedding and £75 for the other) and petrol, we would have given more.

When I was a bridesmaid for my best friend a few years ago and I went alone, I think I spent about £100 on gifts, as well as paying for accommodation & buying my bridesmaid dress, and taking a week off work to help them out with prep. Although at that time I was a bit more carefree with no wedding of my own to pay for or house to save up for!

Go with what you can afford and feel comfortable giving - the main thing is they have invited you to share the day with them, not how much money they are getting from guests!!

minerva_windsong

I agree with those who said give what you can afford and feel comfortable giving - when my sisters got married I gave one of them £20 of John Lewis vouchers and the other got a teapot I'd painted at one of those pottery painting places which I think cost about £30 total. That might not seem like a lot to some people but I was a student at the time so to me it was quite a lot of money. Since I've got older and been with my OH we've been able to give slightly more, normally about £50 between us. But it's really down to you.