Blessing?

RashelA

As we're not part of the parish, we can't actually get married there!

I did think about somebody close performing it for us, but can't think of anyone..Well, only person I can think of that would be comfortable with doing it is getting on a bit now, so I don't want to put him under any pressure - just want him to enjoy the day, stress-free!

Thanks for your suggestions, advice and experiences! I'll talk to the vicar in a couple of weeks

wifeforlife

Hi OP, I'm getting married in a Catholic church, we're having a wedding service only no mass. My OH is an atheist, and was brought up Protestant so it really isn't appropriate or suitable for us to have a religious ceremony.

It's basically a 15 minute service a bit like a civil ceremony, we can include music, readings, prayers or poems if we want however they will have to be suitable and agreed with our priest, who to be honest has been awesum so far!

When's your wedding date?

RashelA

cathy2702 wrote: »

Hi OP, I'm getting married in a Catholic church, we're having a wedding service only no mass. My OH is an atheist, and was brought up Protestant so it really isn't appropriate or suitable for us to have a religious ceremony.

It's basically a 15 minute service a bit like a civil ceremony, we can include music, readings, prayers or poems if we want however they will have to be suitable and agreed with our priest, who to be honest has been awesum so far!

When's your wedding date?

I was beginning to think I was the only one!
Thanks for your information! I will prepare some readings for the priest to see if they would be suitable. Thanks!

I'm getting married on August 10th. You?

PolishBigSpender

RashelA wrote: »

However, after discussions with various family members, turned out some felt we should marry in a church (although this was not mentioned before). Anyway, it made sense as we were finding it difficult to arrange something at the venue, so we are now having a (non-religious) blessing in the church, but not sure what it involves.

1. How can there be blessing in the church without the religious bits? Blessing in itself is religious!

2. Why get married in a church if you're not religious?

angelil

I'm afraid that I agree with the others OP; I don't see the point of marrying in a church if you're not religious (even if the paperwork is already done elsewhere!). I've never been one to do what other people want just because they want it done, so the MIL argument doesn't hold up with me either. I'd seriously reconsider as it doesn't seem to be something that you or your other half *want* particularly!

I don't think you will find many people who will be able to tell you what to expect during a non-religious blessing that still takes place in a church. I don't know anyone who's ever had that done...

Risteard

johannalf88 wrote: »

I thought a blessing was a religious service. It's where the marriage gets "recognised by god". You basically 'convert' your civil marriage into a religious one.

Not correct (at least in the Catholic Church). The Catholic Church (not sure about other denominations) does not recognise civil marriage and therefore a wedding mass would have to take place in the Church even after a civil wedding had taken place. Obviously the bride and groom would not have to register the marriage civilly again before the church wedding takes place.

I don't know where "blessings" come into it.

Idiophreak

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

2. Why get married in a church if you're not religious?

Looks good in the photos...

PolishBigSpender

Idiophreak wrote: »

Looks good in the photos...

Oh well...

wifeforlife

RashelA wrote: »

I was beginning to think I was the only one!
Thanks for your information! I will prepare some readings for the priest to see if they would be suitable. Thanks!

I'm getting married on August 10th. You?

1st April 2013 for us, so a while to go yet. Have you met with your priest/minister yet?