Hoping to find poem from a Doris Stokes' book ref special children

MidLifeCrisis_3

My friend's new baby has lots of problems and I was hoping to find a poem that I once read in a Doris Stokes' book. From memory it was a beautiful poem about 'special children'. I am hoping it will be relevant and I can pass it on to her. If anyone knows the poem I am trying to find I would be really grateful if you would share it.

I have searched online and can only find the one below which is from 'Innocent Voices in My Ear' - I'm pretty sure the one I'm trying to find is in the same book. Thought I would share this one anyway.

Thanks

MLC


In a baby castle just beyond my eye, My baby plays with angel toys that money cannot buy.
Who am I to wish him back,
Into this world of strife?
No, play on my baby,
You have eternal life.

At night when all is silent
And sleep forsakes my eyes
I’ll hear his tiny footsteps come running to my side.
His little hands caress me, so tenderly and sweet.
I’ll breathe a prayer and close my eyes and embrace him in my sleep.
Now I have a treasure that I rate above all other,
I have known true glory – I am still his mother

marisco_2

Could this possibly be the one you are looking for

You weren't like other children,
And God was well aware,
You'd need a caring family,
With love enough to share.

And so He sent you to us,
And much to our surprise,
You haven't been a challenge,
But a blessing in disguise.

Your winning smiles and laughter,
The pleasures you impart,
Far outweigh your special needs,
And melt the coldest heart.

We're proud that we've been chosen,
To help you learn and grow,
The joy that you have brought us,
Is more than you can know.

A precious gift from Heaven,
A treasure from above,
A child who's taught us many things,
But most of all "Real Love"

hellokittygal

Well I think that's a lovely idea to pass on a poem such as those.
There's another poem called "Welcome to Holland" that has been posted on the forum before.

Tiddlywinks

Is your friend at all sentimental or religious?

It's just that if I had found out that my baby had serious problems I don't think I'd find comfort in that poem - I'd be a bit agitated by the platitudes to be honest. Her life has been turned upside down - will that poem really help her?

I remember a friend many years ago who was struggling with late stage MS. Someone sent her an 'inspitational' book which went straight in the bin. I asked her why and she said she felt that the person just didn't get what was happening to her. If they did then they would have realised that words don't help, only actions... that will stay with me forever.

Instead, why can't you just send a lovely card and write inside that you know she has a lot on her mind but that she should call anytime if she wants a chat. If you can, maybe go and sit with her... actions not words!

McKneff

Oooh no, Doris stokes was a medium dealing with the spirits of the dead,

You cant possibly think of sending something like this that sounds as if they have lost their baby and its in the spirit world.

Just dont do it.

The second one, is not so bad, sorry I posted after reading the first one.

littleg_2

I was given 'Welcome to Holland' by a Health Visitor - it went straight into the bin as I found it had nothing to do with my life...especially those early days when there is a place for parents to be angry/grieving etc I would second other suggestions, just a normal baby card/present. Its a new baby to be celebrated, the medical problems are secondary to that.

cottonhead

I would imagine the last thing your friend needs is her babys health difficulties being pointed out again and the poem almost conveys the message that its surprising to love a baby so much when it has special needs - otherwise why would it have been written in the first place. Or that you are congratulaing her on being able to love the baby. Actaully you could read a whole lot of stuff into it. I would avoid at all costs. Buy a nice little baby gift instead.

McKneff

But just to be positive and not to make you feel bad I'm sure I can speak for all of us if I say we appreciate the sentiment behind it.

I just wouldnt do it and just celebrate the fact that she has had this baby, forget everything else.

thehappybutterfly

hmmm, to be honest I thought the first poem sounded like one you'd maybe send to a bereaved parent ...... I'd avoid it too.

Tigsteroonie

We had a baby with "a lot of problems" as many on here will know! The best sentiments I got were Congratulations on having our baby - because I wanted to celebrate the fact that he was alive, not focus on the problems that would follow him in his life.

I have to say that I welled up reading Marisco's quoted poem in the second post

Lucky94

littleg wrote: »

I was given 'Welcome to Holland' by a Health Visitor - it went straight into the bin as I found it had nothing to do with my life...especially those early days when there is a place for parents to be angry/grieving etc I would second other suggestions, just a normal baby card/present. Its a new baby to be celebrated, the medical problems are secondary to that.

I was also given the 'Welcome to Holland' I agree it didn't have anything to do with the way I'm feeling it felt rather patronising
to be honest, left me feeling that I still would rather have gone to Paris.