Getting money from my ex g/f.

Dithering_Dad

Sorry to hear about your plight. I agree with the other posters who suggest a legal letter. It's worth a punt as it has a limited cost in comparison with the amount you may get back. Maybe you should say in the letter that you would accept 50% payment if paid within 1 month - better getting 50% than nothing and she may think she's getting a bargain. I don't think I'd bother with the DIY letter - it might undermine your solicitors one.

If that doesn't work then I'd spend your time working through the debt and thanking your lucky stars that you didn't have kids with this evil cow!!

(sorry, got all angry for you there).

lixi

Hello Hobbin Rood!

My view is that the more you show that you are committed to pursuing her, the more likely she will be to pay. I do not, however, think that one letter will do the trick.

I think you should go with a letter from you to her. Make in clear, however, that she has acknowledged the debt, has previously made payments pursuant to an agreed plan, but has now defaulted. Then give her an opportunity to agree a new plan. To this end, i would send her a proposed schedule, and ask her to confirm that it is agreed by a set date and make the first payment by a set date.

You should then confirm that if you do not hear from her (etc etc) then you will instruct your solicitors to progress this matter.

At this stage, I would suggest that your solicitors send a letter before action (pretty much along the same lines but warning of court action if no agreement within 14/21 day - it will help hammer the message home even if you do not intend to pursue court action).

How can people be so awful to others? It just perplexes me, it really does. I hope you get somewhere!

Take care.

Lixi