Would you take OH dress shopping / let him help pick ur dress?

scrumpy78

From my posts u can see I'm stressing about my dress. The choice is too overwhelming and I just can't get excited about it. The last thing I want to do is trawl shops trying on loads. My 1 bridesmaid (sister) doesn't understand how I feel, she's giddy with how it should be the best bit of the day, how I should spend lots and how important it is. My best friend is a bit the same, and we also not close enough for her to say " yeah actually u look like a hippo in drag". The only person who understands me and who I trust to tell me the truth is my OH. He is the one I want to come with me. But is that too weird? Or bad luck? I don't want him to see THE dress but help me with styles etc. But I kinda wanted to save how I look in a special dress as a suprise for him on the day?

GemJar_2

Firstly, you make your own look so don't worry about that! Coming to think of it the only two people i'd trust are my mum and my bf so I can understand where you're coming from.

How about pre-dress shopping with your oh showing him the different styles but don't pick out a dress you absolutley adore so that you don't accidently find 'the one'? TBH even if you do just blag it and go back to buy it when he's not there, he doesn't have to know until the day what the dress is but if you feel most comfortable with his help then just go for it, its your wedding!

sweetilemon

I wanted it to be a surprise but mostly my OH HATES shopping...he insists hes traditional and thats why he doesnt want to know about the dress although we both know its because it gets him out of listening to me ramble on for ages! If you want him to go and hes happy then theres no reason you cant!

Brighton_belle

Taking your OH sounds a really sensible idea; weddings should be about being happy and stressfree where ever possible IMO: take the simple easy route every time. Even if he sees 'the one', it will only be briefly - he won't remeber all the details, you will still have an enormous impact on the day with your hair and perhaps alittle make up done and the added beauty a happy bride radiates that money can't buy.

Clothes shopping in general can be very stresful for some of us so a wedding dress hunt, with the wrong people who don't get you and how you feel doesn't sound fun. I went with a friend I really trusted who was brilliant. If that trusted person had been my OH, I woud have taken him.

And other wedding traditions aren't set in stone:
We chose to walk together from the hotel to the wedding venue - it was a very special, beautiful 5 mins in the sunshine in the back streets of an old town;the tradition of not seeing each other that morning etc didn't suit us, so we ignored it. No regrets - it was such a specil time, just him and me, on our way to make our vows in front of our gathering friends and family.

9ja4life

I took my OH dress shopping and have a post on it somewhere here. I tried on different dresses and made a note of which ones he really liked - he was so picky! - then choose one out of the lot. It will still be a surprise to him on the day (he specifically asked)

I hate dress shopping - trying on different ones. I usually have an idea of what I want and go for it and 95% of my wardrobe is made up of dresses.

wanchai_2

No. No, no, no, no. :rotfl:

floss2

It's entirely up to you - if he's the one who can be the most help, then take him and use him!

At the end of the day, it's your wedding, and you make the traditions

catkins

My OH came with me and helped me choose my dress. Neither of us had a problem with it but then again we did not stick with most of the traditions. We didn't have hen and stag nights, the evening before the wedding we went for a meal with our two best friends. My OH stayed at my house that night (we weren't living together) and then he drove us to the register office.

It didn't seem to bring us any bad luck - we will celebrate our 32nd anniversary this year and are still very happy

neenaww

Yes if you want to ... I had been shopping for dresses with a friend but I knew the one who would be totally honest with me was my H2B
I had narrowed it down to 2 dresses but I really knew which one I wanted so I asked him if he would mind or if he wanted it to be a surprise on the day and he said he would be honoured to come with me ... so not only did he "help" me choose, he saw me in "the one" quite a few times before the wedding day.

As others have said, it was still special on the day as obviously I had hair and make up done with my jewellery on etc. So it was still a lovey moment for him when he saw me arrive.

If you want to do it and he doesnt mind... do it! Forget about the "old wives tales" and enjoy your time together x