Wanting to work but hitting a wall ...

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sukysue wrote: »

Will he be alert enough for work taking Morphine etc for the pain, only it sounds as if he is not well enough for a job yet, sorry to be a Joabs comforter and of course you both know how he is just I wonder if he is so frustrated to work he may be going/trying before he should be .I know the loss of the money is a lot but couldn't you claim carers allowance for him? Just a thought good luck to you both m'dear.

Hi Sukysue

He gets anywhere from 2-3 hours sleep at anyone time and thats after taking the sleeping tablets from the docs! If I could have my way I would not be looking for a job but for more treatment for OH. It breaks my heart to see him in sooo much pain

He is pushing himself to go back to work because he can see me struggling to pay the bills. He has emailed his CV to several jobs and had his CV checked by the JC. He has declaired his injury on all applications so he is honest upfront and I think this is whats holding him back. Mind you if he didnt put it on then if he was offered an interview it would be very apparent he has a back injury purly by the way he waddles x

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dandelionclock30 wrote: »

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/Caringforsomeone/DG_10018705.

. You say you have an application in for DLA. If he gets it and you earn less than 100 quid a week you can claim carers allowance.

Thanks for the link hun x Unfortunately I do earn over £100 a week

Oldernotwiser

At 38 I'd strongly suggest that he goes back into education/training for a non manual job or career. The fact that he's only done manual work up to now isn't really relevant - he's plenty young enough to learn.

gardenia101

These people are helpful - they don't operate in all areas sadly, but they may be able to give you both advice about what else may be availble locally if they can't help.

The ESA limit isn't yet set in stone (AFAIK) although I think it probably will go through eventually (assume you are talking about the 1 year limit for contributions based ESA). I am also in the same boat - my ESAC will stop in April if that nice Dave gets his way...

I agree with some other posters who suggest that maybe your OH needs to retrain, although being in that situation myself I know it isn't always that easy. But he is only 38, & heaven only knows at what age he will get to retire....

I have a disability "advisor" who is lovely but I don't think she knows what to do with me either. I did have a careers advice session to talk over my options, which was easily the most helpful thing JC have offered me - think it was called Next Steps or Next Phase? It was for "ordinary" job seekers, rather than those on ESA & I had to ask to get a session (which wasn't a problem). It gave me more guidance on what else is out there, & how I could train for something in a completely new field. Like your OH I had always worked in a certain job, I'd loved it & hadn't really wanted to do much else (I mean I hadn't a clue what else I wanted to do, not that I didn't want to do anything ).

I'm retraining to be a book keeper, although I'm struggling to engage my brain after almost 2 years of not working. But it is something I can do from home & although I never really liked maths, I do like creating order & sorting things out. I probably wouldn't have thought about this as a career option if that advisor hadn't pointed out how it fits in with my nature (although it is obvious when someone points it out :rotfl:)

I wish you both well - it isn't easy to adapt to such a huge change in your life.

Is there any way you can progress your career to improve your salary? I realise you must be exhausted with all of it by now, but if you could earn enough so that you didn't have to worry about money so much, it may give your OH more time for his health to improve.

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Thank you for your advice Gardenia101. I wish I could improve at work but my role is a stationary role as an account administrator. When I took on the role, it involved a 2 year pay freeze so this wont end until Jan next year.

OH has said to the JC about retraining. He is not sure what he wants to do but I know he wont fit into an office environment. He did suggest about the fork lift course as it's an environment he knows, can retrain and also learn about the despatch side so he wont be heavy lifting and can rest when needed, however .... the JC has said he is only entitled to this once he is on the JSA but you know the rest.

Thank you all for your suggestions x