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Financial Help for Single Dad's Who DO Pay Maintenance

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  • liney
    liney Posts: 5,121 Forumite
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    I'd just like to point out, if you were a single mum earning the same wages without custody of your children, you would be entitled to the same amount of benefits.

    Tax Credits aren't there to enable you pay your IVA or Child Maintenance, they take into consideration your incomming, not your outgoings. You are expected to live within your means.
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  • If you live a fair distance from your chiuldren, I believe that you can request a lower payment (possibly called a variation?) to allow for travel costs. However, as you have already said, you do not want to pay less as it will affect your children.

    I suggest that you follow some of the advice given and try to negotiate lower payments on your debt (and if it is all from your divorce as you say, why isn't your ex wife paying a proportion? Surely this would have been sorted out when you filled in the financial forms?).

    There is a website about feeding your family on £100 a month - it should definitely be do-able for a single person, even if you have your children staying a couple of days a week. There is also plenty of information about saving money on the Old Style board.
  • karenx
    karenx Posts: 4,988 Forumite
    magred wrote: »
    I don't claim, nor am I in receipt of any benefit, and to be honest, don't actually want any benefit help.

    Therefore, if I am entitled to help, what is it?


    So in one sentence you dont want any benefits and the next sentence your asking what benefits you can get???
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