Cousin's Wedding - Issues

Plans_all_plans

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Out if interest, did your cousin attend yours?

Yes, my cousin and her fiance attended our wedding.

Thunderbird: The wedding is September this year, our baby is to be born in June. Invites have not gone out yet but everyone's been informed of the date.

Eton Rifle: Not sure where you got that impression from, see post 8.

Chakani

Personally I would be thinking what an ideal age for the baby to be - small enough to be portable and not on the move yet, old enough for you to know them and to have got over the new-baby niggles, and probably happy enough to be passed around a few adoring aunties for cuddles.

I think if it was my cousin, who I like but don't see often, I would make the effort. But it does seem that you are setting yourself up to not enjoy it. Why would you not?

Plans_all_plans

Because with my first child I had her at the breast almost constantly for 4 months. She liked being comforted there so that's where I put her. I didn't really go anywhere or do anything until she was starting to be weaned. If I have another child like that, then it's impractical to travel about and it'd mean stopping in the car every 2 minutes. I also wouldn't be happy for my 5 year old to stay up too late or fall asleep on the floor/coats, so we'd have to leave early.

Don't get me wrong, I love weddings and parties more than most, but I do feel that this will be too much, too early on.

peachyprice

I don't know why you're asking, you'd obviously made up your mind you weren't going!

Plans_all_plans

Yes, I know I've made my mind up, but you'll see from post number 8 that I'd revised my original question to "do you think it's unreasonable for someone with a newborn baby to use that as a reason not to attend a wedding?"

dizziblonde

poppyolivia wrote: »

You'll love Inverness and want to move here!;)...have a great time!..take your brolly!:rotfl:

Half hubby's family and friends all have moved up that area! We had about 5 or 6 all individually announce they were heading of up far north within the space of the last couple of years!

onlyroz

From a practical point of view, I always found that small babies sleep for most of a long car journey (so stopping for feeds wasn't too much of an issue). Also, non-crawling babies are usually easy to cope with on a day out than an older baby who is crawling or toddling around (because they'll be happy to sit on a knee or propped up in a chair or be passed around doting relatives all day).

But if you don't fancy it then I don't think you should feel obliged to go.

VfM4meplse

I've got a solution - if you live in East London and don't mind expressing milk I'd be happy to have your children for the night. (Don't worry, I've been CRB checked).

Plans_all_plans

I wouldn't even leave a baby that small with my husband overnight unless I really had to!

VfM4meplse

poppyolivia wrote: »

You'll love Inverness and want to move here!;)...have a great time!..take your brolly!:rotfl:

dizziblonde wrote: »

Half hubby's family and friends all have moved up that area! We had about 5 or 6 all individually announce they were heading of up far north within the space of the last couple of years!

I don't understand the point of Scotland full stop? Inverness is so far north it's scary!! Why not just move to the North Pole ?