Cousin's Wedding - Issues

GobbledyGook

You know if they don't need to know yet why don't you wait? Your lo might be a baby who gets themselves into a natural routine of feeding 3/4 hourly by then and you might feel great and fancy going. Why not wait and see?

It'll also help with family relations if they think you are thinking about it. It does sound like they'd really like you there.

Plans_all_plans

Well yes I suppose that's a good idea. I just didn't want them to fork out money on an invite for us (as they can get quite dear these days) when they could invite someone else in our place! So I mentioned it to them as soon as we were all told of the date.

LEJC

Personally if I wanted to travel to the wedding whith children then I would...however it seems more to do with do you want to travel 400 miles to the wedding with small children....I think the answer you want to give is "no"...therefore RSVP to that effect and thank the couple for their kind invitation....harsh as it sounds that way they can probably invite someone else in your place who whould rather spend the day with them ....

Volupturaptor

Personally I'd go, I have a very well travelled 19 month old, he's been doing regular long car trips all his little life, and will be coming with me on a 500 mile round trip this coming weekend. Breast feeding is actually easier than bottle feeding when travelling.
The thing is, if you don't want to go, then don't be pressured into doing so, so yes, having a young baby will be a good enough excuse!
The above advice to wait and see how you feel nearer the time is good, I'd suggest you do that for now.

CH27

If you think it's too much for you all then don't go.

Torry_Quine

I personally wouldn't travel that far to a wedding unless for someone very close to me. I certainly didn't expect any of my relatives to come that distance.

VfM4meplse

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

Well yes I suppose that's a good idea. I just didn't want them to fork out money on an invite for us (as they can get quite dear these days) when they could invite someone else in our place! So I mentioned it to them as soon as we were all told of the date.

At least you were honest with them upfront, and your apologies won't have cost them any money. I think that should be appreciated.

As for the other family members / cousins, remeber that some people are happy when they have something to moan about. Don't forget that planning weddings can take over lives and they'll have moved onto the next niggle in no time.

Out if interest, did your cousin attend yours?

thunderbird

When is the wedding/how old is your baby at the moment?

I would go, there's no reason why you shouldn't enjoy yourself (unless you go along determined not to!) I also agree with ditching the plans to leave early - kds can always sleep on a pile of coats/in a pram.

Noctu

I got married last year, we have no children. I invited my cousin who lives a similar distance away, they couldn't make it (they had a similar aged child and another toddler). We completely understood - we missed them on the day but it couldn't be helped.

poppyolivia

dizziblonde wrote: »

Personally - yep, I am doing. We have one to attend in Inverness (not sure we can get further away while remaining on the UK mainland!) when the bump will be 3 months old. Can't easily get out of it (and wouldn't anyway) - hubby's best man, and its the friend that was best man at our wedding... plan is to book a hotel room in the hotel that the festivities are taking place in so I can duck in and out in relative comfort depending on how the baby's being and we can both be there for the key bits of the day at least. Going to break the journey up by staying with my folks overnight - then go on up to stay with hubby's family so the in-laws can go showing the new baby off around their entire social circle and get a lot of things done with in one round-trip... oh and we may also have our two dogs in tow (take them to stay with the in-laws before the wedding)! I figure at least when they're small you're not going to get a million hours of "I'm booooored are we nearly there yets."

For my own cousin? Nope no way - but then I wouldn't pee on her if she was going up in flames... but for a couple we're close to - we decided that in that case it was worth it.

You'll love Inverness and want to move here!;)...have a great time!..take your brolly!:rotfl: