Real life MMD: Should I pay for his day off?

Rosydoodles

Definitely don't pay - he's responsible for making sure he has a way to get to work, that includes getting out of the house!

Slightly off topic:
And to some of the people saying he shouldn't be there at all when the girlfriend isn't there it can depend on the situation. E.G. I'm in a long distance relationship and when I go to visit my boyfriend I sometimes end up staying in his flat while he's at work. But he is the main renter and we've always made sure his two flatmates know I'll be there beforehand. Plus I normally do the washing up and tidy/clean a bit around the flat while he's gone as a thanks to everyone for letting me stay.

sm23_2

Wow. Kind of outrageous that your flatmate / her boyfriend would even consider asking for money. Are they so uptight that they can't laugh it off? It's not clear if he's a new partner or a long-term fixture, which could have different implications in terms of security (not to mention other flat-sharing stresses!), but you shouldn't have to pay for someone else's laziness. A sense of entitlement doesn't actually mean he's entitled to anything!

dnairn8417

telsco wrote: »

You were lucky that your friend hadn't left her bedroom window wide open, as you obviously couldn't be bothered to do a basic security check before you left for work.

You should pay up just for that idiotic decision alone, as instead of her boyfriend, you could have got home that night to an empty ransacked house.

Don't agree with your harsh comment, her friend might have a lock on her bedroom door anyway do you just walk into people's room when their not there. Its her friends responsibility to lock her window, and let her boyfriend out in the morning before leaving..

Pumpkin_Seed

As you are both sharing the flat, your flatmate should have informed you her boyfriend was staying over. At the least she should NOT have left him in your joint flat without your prior knowledge and/or consent! Could have been embarrassing when coming out of bathroom etc. if you did not know he was there & how do you know who he is anyway, could have scared the daylights out of you! How did she think he was going to get out anyway? Definitely do NOT pay him - he should buy YOU flowers as an apology! Definitely need some ground rules here!

anasati

If the day off has been taken out of his leave allowance, he has not lost any pay so I don't understand why you would have any reason to pay him anything, just say no.

Greenfly_3

I think you get the message from this forum. You should definately not pay anything. Firstly, you had no option but to lock the door. Secondly, if you had gone to work and left the door unlocked, how was he going to lock the door when he left? Tell your friend to *** (in your own polite words of course :-) ).

joehoover

telsco wrote: »

You were lucky that your friend hadn't left her bedroom window wide open, as you obviously couldn't be bothered to do a basic security check before you left for work.

You should pay up just for that idiotic decision alone, as instead of her boyfriend, you could have got home that night to an empty ransacked house.

What planet is the person who wrote this response on? Did you understand the dilemma being posed? So you think it is her responsiblity to do a house search of every room, cupboard, under the beds before leaving for work every day on the chance someone may be hiding inthe house.

I really hope this was a joke reply as it is ludicrous! The poster of the problem did her routine and securely locked the house. Flatmates generally don't go in each others rooms seeing if they slept with any one that night that they should take into consideration, we call this privacy in the real world.

The flatmate should have left a note, just along lines of "dont double lock the door, my b/f's home, I left him my keys)"

I am shocked your flatmate asked for the money, she should know it is her error. I wouldn't leave someone in my hosue who never lived there and if it was someone I trusted I wold give them my keys so they could lock up, I wouldn't want my door which is also double locked left unsecured.

Some people just like to balme others for their own mistakes, laziness, stupidity. Don't take any of it, you did absolutely nothing wrong. Your friend and her boyfriend are opportunist, I would get rid of them asap, not someone I could share with if they try things like that on to extract money from you, they'll try other ways to extort the cash from you.

choclover

No, as she didn't know anything about it. It was the girlfriends responsibility to tell her and should have let him out.

joehoover

melancholly wrote: »

my flat is always double locked, but doesn't need a key - there's a deadbolt in the middle that you can turn and a second lock at the top that just has a catch from the inside. when i have lived somewhere where a second lock needed a key to unlock it, we always left the key in the door at night or had the key on the side to get at it quickly. if there is a fire, it seems madness to me to have to run to find a set of keys to get out. double locking does not mean a key is required!

Mine is too but like the first reply I leave the key in the door at night in case of fire, unfrtuantely it;s a rented house and we are not allowed to change the locks

tindella

Is this for real? the housemate knew he was there so she should have made sure he could get out - so why does she think someone else should pay? Why was he still in bed anyway - shouldn't he have got up for work! It's just an excuse for him to have a sickie!

Get a new housemate - or better still, let her move in with him and they can drive each other mad.