Real life MMD: Should I pay for his day off?

samtheman1k

Good job there wasn't a fire!

spankygoodtime

In the first flat I shared, the other person was the very easy going, fun owner. She didn't mind who I had over and when, and I didn't have to ask permission before I invited anyone over. But she insisted that no one was to be left in her property without me with them - and that I did not give keys to anyone else without her knowing about it. Boyfriends or other overnight guests had to go when I went to work if she wasn't there - house rules.

In the days when I shared I always suggested that as a house rule when sharing ever since, it's basic security and common sense.

spankygoodtime

PS - no you shouldn't pay because I really believe your flat mate had no right to leave her BF alone in a flat she was sharing with you, without asking you if this was alright first.

hummingbird

Would she pay you if it was the other way round? Probably not.......she would be telling you that you should let her know if someone is staying over!!!:o

interlcore

No, you shouldn't pay anything. No one told you he was staying so it is their fault for his lost day.
Did he use your food and electric whilst in your house? If yes, maybe he should pay for that.

scrabbly

What a ridiculous question ! It's their problem & not yours. As suggested - could he not get out of the window ?
However, this sounds a serious fire hazard to me - if you have a fire & you get to the door and the other person has locked it as normal, would you have remembered to take your keys from bedroom or wherever ? I don't think so !!!
I have this arrangement in a maisonette and it is a serious hazard. I have solved the problem by hanging a key close to the door - not too close so there's access to burglars - anyone can then get out or, if just a visitor, can lock the door themselves and put keys back through letterbox

captainhaggis

I wonder if your flatmate would have paid for your television, laptop and jewellery had it been stolen after your home was broken into because you didn't lock the door properly.

No? Didn't think so.

gbrowne

telsco wrote: »

You were lucky that your friend hadn't left her bedroom window wide open, as you obviously couldn't be bothered to do a basic security check before you left for work.

You should pay up just for that idiotic decision alone, as instead of her boyfriend, you could have got home that night to an empty ransacked house.

NOT AT ALL!!!!!
just as it is the housemate's responsibility to make sure any windows she opens are closed, so is it her responsibility to ensure that arrangements are made for her guests.

whilst living with my best friend we had 1 very important rule! you were never to leave your guest in the house without you. this was even if i was quickly popping to the shop. if no one else was in, my guest would have to come with me, if one of my housemates was in, i would get their permission to leave my guest there whilst i popped out. if they said no, it didn't happen.

tell your housemate to stop being so unreasonable and maybe think about a rule like me and my friends used to have.
it works because it applies to everyone (even our parents) and you all know where you stand.

milvusvestal

If your flatmate didn't bother to warn you in advance that her boyfriend was staying overnight, don't pay her one penny. She ought, out of plain courtesy, to have told you that the place would still be occupied after you'd both gone off to work.

What bothers me more than that, though, is a stranger having complete freedom to pry into whatever he pleases, with no fear of being disturbed. I take it that the landlord allows occasional overnight visitors but, if he doesn't, it strengthens your case and gives you every right to refuse any compensation.

scoandco

Don't pay for his/your flatmates mistake unless he pays rent for all the times he stays over!