if you could earn 4 years earnings in 6 months

ceridwen

NO WAY HOSAY!

If you'd get that level of pay - then it amounts to "danger money". Hardly surprising - since its Afghanistan.

Not to be touched with a bargepole - even if you were young, free and single.

As you have a wife and a child-to-be - then double the length of bargepole.

If you go out there - then you'd better pray hard for a run of good luck to keep you safe and then pray just as hard that you still have a marriage to come back to. Even if I thought rather differently to the way I actually do - if I were your wife I would neither forget nor forgive you making such a major and dangerous decision on your own or abandoning me when I was just about to give birth to our child. It would be "game, set, match" and I would be sussing out divorces and you would find your bags packed and waiting for you when you got back to Britain.

Sorry to be so blunt - but, once one gets married, then all major decisions are JOINT ones and this is not your decision to make on your own.

jamespir

if it involved killing anyone or in a situation where i could get killed then big fat no

ceridwen

...and dont forget that its now medically proven that it does a baby no good at all to have its mother feeling extremely stressed whilst she is pregnant with it.

That child could, at some level, feel the effects for the rest of its life of its mother being so stressed during the pregnancy - and if they realise that later (ie once they reach adulthood) then you won't be very popular with them either.

They certainly will feel "Why on earth did my Dad desert my Mum at that time in her life?"

Nicki

Personally, I wouldn't go as I am not brave enough. And I would be very upset if my husband worked abroad during the end of my pregnancy and first months with a newborn, even if not in a war zone! But its a discussion for you to have with your wife. She may feel differently.

ceridwen wrote: »

...and dont forget that its now medically proven that it does a baby no good at all to have its mother feeling extremely stressed whilst she is pregnant with it.

That child could, at some level, feel the effects for the rest of its life of its mother being so stressed during the pregnancy - and if they realise that later (ie once they reach adulthood) then you won't be very popular with them either.

They certainly will feel "Why on earth did my Dad desert my Mum at that time in her life?"

The above post though is just ridiculous and should be discounted. I had bad PTSD during my last pregnancy, and was advised in no uncertain terms by both my obstetrician and my psychiatrist that it would have NO impact whatsoever on the baby, much less have an impact lasting into adulthood :rotfl:. And I got to the point where I needed medication and was considering an admission into hospital, so this was not a question of considering the degree of the anxiety being experienced. My DS who is now 2 is incredibly laid back and happy, with no mental health issues of any kind.

How would an older child or an adult even know that dad worked abroad for the first few months of their life, unless told by the parents? I have no recollection of anything which happened in my life before the age of about 2 and a half, and all the research I have read says that it isn't possible to lay down a long term memory of an event which happened before you developed cognitive language.

koloko

Two weeks ago, 17 people (including two british civilian contractors - electricians) were killed in Afghanistan. The bus that was targeted was being escorted by armoured vehicles.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/oct/30/british-contractors-killed-kabul-attack

LudaMusser

One of my brother's best mates does a similar job but not in Afghanistan. He was in the Marines out there but now he is a bodyguard. He's currently spending three months at a time on merchant vessles stopping pirates hijacking them. The money is very good but I don't know how his wife can relax knowing what he comes up against

My answer to OP would be No taking into acount my wife and family and my well being

geoffky

As someone who spent 20 years travelling the world having fun in many a war zone..by all means go if you are single but if you have a wife forget it because it is so unfair on her as she really has no say in it...
I finished the day i got married as i knew i could not ask anyone to wait at home while i had a ball causing mayhem around the globe..I bought my first house with my war bonus from the Falklands..

Please remember why you are getting paid so well..Because its bloody dangerous m8....
I ended working offshore as the risk was far far less.
And if you do go say hello to all the pumped up psychopaths for me,
The place is a magnet for them.