I think I was a bit too giddy...

Nic_Noc_Noo

...and gave out a few too many Save The Dates to people - what can I do?

A couple that I gave out were to people that were going to borrow me stuff (centrepiece-wise) for our wedding (that they had previously used at theirs) so I felt a way of repaying them would be for them to come to my wedding...however as much as I get on with them, I'm not sure I actually want them there for the whole thing - can't really invite them as an evening guest as we are not having any additional guests to those in the day. AND I've now changed my mind about the type of centrepieces I want so don't really need their contribution anymore. PLUS our numbers are coming over what we have budgeted for :eek:

So basically I'm trying to figure out a way of un-inviting them (nicely).....ANY help appreciated!!! I feel awful about it but I have a budget to stick to.

Thanks in advance

White_Sapphire

Barring 'losing their invite in the post' , I think all you can do is say that you're really sorry but that due to budget issues, you've had to restrict the guest list since the Save The Dates went out.

Good luck!

Alikay

Sorry to be harsh, but I think that sounds really mean. You were happy to have them there when they were doing something useful for you, now things have changed and you're not. Whatever the reason, once you've sent out a "save the date" card you've pretty well invited them.

Hopefully someone you DO like will drop out and then you can keep on budget. Or hurt their feelings by concocting some excuse to uninvite them.

Robinred

Or maybe you could rustle up some extra guests to invite just to the evening and invite these people as well to just the evening?

MaggieBaking

You can't nicely uninvite someone, though I do think a Save the Date is different from an official invitation, which I wouldn't ever rescind.

I think you're just going to have to wait a sufficient length of time after you sent them, but well before the actual wedding to speak to them in person and say how much you'd like to have them there but unfortunately your unable to have as many guests as you hoped for. If they're not that close they might well understand - but I do think most people would feel hurt.

And let it be a lesson to other brides, a Save the Date is really a way of "bagsying" a date for your wedding with your nearest and dearest. I think you should send out fewer STD cards than you would invitations, those who are on the "fringe" of who you really want to be there you shouldn't book them a year in advance.

roseability_2

I agree with other posters- if you've sent a STD you've pretty much invited them, and there's no way to rescind the invitation that's nice. The only thing I can think of is when you see them next, suggest that you've sent STDs to evening guests too, then when they get an evening invite (presuming you're inviting them to the evening!) hopefully they won't be too put out.

Nic_Noc_Noo

thanks all.

been chatting with OH about this and reading back my original post I think I sound a bit heartless I agree that if I received a STD that would automatically mean I would receive a full invite too.....suppose I best do some re-jigging of the figures.

thanks for all your advice

nickki44

I wouldn't worry TOO much Nic, there are always people who can't make the wedding, things will work out )

We're getting married on a Friday, and even with inviting reserve guests, we've still got less than budgeted for (but MORE for the evening do!)