Anyone else feel like this...

Wicky84

Im hoping Im not the only one feeling like this.....

I'm sooo excited about becoming a Mrs, I have the most amazing fiance in the world and cant wait to be his wife its just that I'm really nervous about the actual day. I know I shouldn't care but I'm worried someone will moan about something or not approve of something etc and that it'll put a downer on the whole day for me. What if people don't mix that well, or we forget to introduce people? Just silly things that might not even happen.

The wedding isnt even for another 9 months but its been like a knot in my stomach for the past couple of days and I cant seem to shift it.


x

Brighton_belle

well, we got married 12 days ago, and my experience on the day was that our emotions kicked in big time and we were so incredibly happy, nothing could have taken us out of 'the happy zone'.

Someting we did do was to make specific requests to people before the day to 'please go and introduce yourself to x'. Weddings are a gret place for easy self introductions. I'm not sure you'll have the time to do any yourself on the dayand won't be expected to.

We only had a 10 week enggagement but I still went through a roller coater of every emotion during that time, and was told by trusted friends this was quite normal. I also remember thinking (which seems ridiculous now) that the whole day might be a bit naff,lol.
We had a wonderful day, trust me, you will too.

ellay864

Perfectly normal but as brighton belle says you won't care on the day. I was like that on my first wedding but this time round it's great as I know it won't actually matter once the day arrives. I already know my mum will disapprove of my purple shoes, and that one particular male guest is likely to sulk and keep himself to himself and I don't give a stuff! I will enjoy my day and not even notice those things. There's bound to be something that doesn't go as I planned, or I forget but that won't matter either, but just remember that details you're aware of won't be noticed by other guests. Just enjoy your day - it will go by so quickly so try not to get hung up on the things that might not happen anyway

VICSH

HI

Yes I felt exactly the same for some time, what if my mum doesnt like my dress (this is pretty likely, she has a blunt way of saying things at the best of time so expecting her to say somehting). What if the food isnt rgiht or people dont like what we have created etc etc the list was endless. I got so worried about my dad's speach (my sisters wedding he made a really inappropiate joke during the speach which pretty much isolated the whole audience) that I actually sat him down and explained I dont want any jokes jsut stand up and say something nice about H2b and I and not use it as a platform to fulfil his stand up comedy dreams!!!

Anyway I got over it as the wedding gets closer 10 weeks away I had a chat wiht H2B and jsut kinda put it to the back of my mind and became a bit less concerned about everyone else and I am jsut looking forward to enjoying our day wiht H2B and our families. We have saved so hard for this day to be perfect in our eyes and if it is not to someone else you know they have different (bad :-)) taste...
I hope that helps sorry for such a long post but I jsut want to reassure you this is normal and it will pass....

Wicky84

Ah thanks guys! Feel much better knowing I'm not being a miserable old so and so! Its so nice having somewhere to come and get a little reassurance.
xxx

BugglyB

You will be fine hon.

What is a good idea is what someone else mentioned. Why not get a few trusted people and tell them what you're worried about. My sister was worried about mums side of the family not mixing with everyone (they're a bit stand offish) so she told me and I told my boyfriend and a few of her mates thats what she was concerned about and we all made a big effort and they had a great time - introducing MIL to Grandma, for example, cos they both like gardening.

As it happened my sister was too nervous, then elated, then drunk, to notice anyway