Ex wife 'at' our wedding!

ellay864

My OH's ex wife is actually really helping us out by bringing his daughter's friend to the wedding. She (OH's DD) is my bridesmaid so will be with me on the morning of the wedding. His son and my sons will both have their girlfriends with them but DSD is currently single so we said she could invite a friend. But that friend has no other way of getting to the zoo. We had considered a taxi but DSD said her mum would bring friend over.
We are really grateful and offered her and a mate zoo tickets so she could at least enjoy a day out as she's putting her self out driving over an hour for this. But when he said we'd sort out zoo tickets for them she said 'don't worry, I won't hang round drinking loads' :eek:
We're now worrying that instead of feeling a bit uncomfortable she'll be too comfy and want to hang round and see the kids etc
It's great that we can all be civilised but it's now starting to just feel a little wierd, the thought of her hanging round while we get married. Am I worrying over nothing??

redped

I think you're reading too much in to it. As you say, it's good that you're all civilised - it'd be much worse if there were open hostilities between you, your OH & his ex.

ERICS_MUM

I'm sure your DSD will appreciate seeing all 3 of you get on with each other. I assume that the ex-wife will behave" - do you have any suspicion/previous experience to the contrary ?

Hope you have a great wedding day !


Linda xx

74jax

ellay864 wrote: »

My OH's ex wife is actually really helping us out by bringing his daughter's friend to the wedding. She (OH's DD) is my bridesmaid so will be with me on the morning of the wedding. His son and my sons will both have their girlfriends with them but DSD is currently single so we said she could invite a friend. But that friend has no other way of getting to the zoo. We had considered a taxi but DSD said her mum would bring friend over.
We are really grateful and offered her and a mate zoo tickets so she could at least enjoy a day out as she's putting her self out driving over an hour for this. But when he said we'd sort out zoo tickets for them she said 'don't worry, I won't hang round drinking loads' :eek:
We're now worrying that instead of feeling a bit uncomfortable she'll be too comfy and want to hang round and see the kids etc
It's great that we can all be civilised but it's now starting to just feel a little wierd, the thought of her hanging round while we get married. Am I worrying over nothing??

I think this is a far better attitude than what some arrangements have been to weddings I've attended.

I'm in the same boat as you, however both my daughter's dad and his new wife will be there. I would rather this 100 times over and be civilised so they can see their daughter as a bridesmaid and all looking beautiful than anything else.

As long as you don't feel she is there to cause trouble then that is another story. However she's already said she won't be there long so I don't think this is the case. I think it is because of the child she is there, not to actually see you married (if that makes sense).

Minimoo24

i know what u mean but i think she was saying she wont hang around and thats all, maybe just ask her x

podperson

I read that as she just meant that she wouldn't be stopping for long - perhaps she just wants to see her daughter looking pretty in her bridesmaid's dress? If it's bothering you then maybe just mention it to her but if you get along ok anyway that I don't really see the issue.

ellay864

Thanks all...I didn't make it clear that DSD is not a little child, she's 16. I think it was the comment implying she was joining us for drinks when we'll be in the function rooms and - I don't mean this horribly - we weren't planning to invite her to that. But she also is known for being a bit OTT with the kids - her son is 19 so we're not talking little ones she has to mollycoddle. I am grateful for her transporting the friend but the kids also won't want her making a show - they get embarassed when we've gone on hols and she's brought them to the airport then done emotional goodbyes as we go to the check-in.
I'm hoping we can convince her that the 4 very adorable cheetah cubs will be far more worth looking at than our wedding!

coolcait

ellay864 wrote: »

....I'm hoping we can convince her that the 4 very adorable cheetah cubs will be far more worth looking at than our wedding!

There is no way I can say this without it sounding like I am dissing your wedding . But, I promise you, that it is not meant that way at all!!

Cheetah cubs?! Four of them?!!! How could anyone resist that? (I wish I lived closer to the Zoo).

Back on topic - I hope you manage to sort things out without getting too stressed.

Off topic again - how fabulous would it be if you could get some wedding photos with the baby cheetahs?!

(I love cheetahs )

ellay864

coolcait wrote: »

Off topic again - how fabulous would it be if you could get some wedding photos with the baby cheetahs?!

(I love cheetahs )

Fabulous yes...chance of it pretty close to zero. Those little kitties are SOOOO adorable they just attract masses of crowds round them...we'd be lynched if we tried to move people out the way!

coolcait

ellay864 wrote: »

Fabulous yes...chance of it pretty close to zero. Those little kitties are SOOOO adorable they just attract masses of crowds round them...we'd be lynched if we tried to move people out the way!

Ahem! "Special occasion"

Um... "Bridal party"

aaah - "Bride and groom stop to spend some time with the cheetah kitties on their special day" [that's the bride and groom;s special day]

Surely (surely?!) that's a way to get a photo...



Whatever happens - between the serious stuff like the ex wife, and the 'getting a photo with the cheetahs' stuff - I hope that you have a great and stress-free day!

ellay864

I like your thinking tbh though if I had my way I'd be in with the red pandas having cuddles, or the chimps...they're my faves.