Appropriate wording for wedding invite

redwineguzzler

Hi all,

My son is getting married, and it's going to be a traditional white wedding, but the brides father died a few years ago, normally the invite says something like Mr & Mrs Smith invite you to the wedding of etc etc.

They don't want to just put her mum's name on invite, but would like to incorporate (us) the grooms parents too, but how?

Any ideas grateful.

Thanks
xx

Lavendyr

How about "Together with their parents, X and Y warmly request your presence at..." ? That seems to be a fairly common thing to do these days.

For ours, we were technically 'hosting' ourselves so we simply went with "The honour of your presence is warmly requested at the wedding of ...." or something along those lines.

Lollie79

We chose to use our daughter as 'host' ie.. xxxxxx requests your presence at the marriage of her parents. We chose this as both sets of parents are divorced and have new partners and we are paying for most of wedding, and we felt this was the best option and meant we didnt upset anyone and we thought it was a nice way to include our daughter

Tiara_2

How about "Together with their families, Fred and Jane would like to invite" as the intro?

northnorthwest

At our wedding we incuded both sets of parents in the invite, something along the lines of:

X and Y Smith and X and Y Brown request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children X and Y...

So you could do:

X and Y Smith and Y Brown request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their children X and Y

wanchai_2

This is an issue for us as well, as neither of our dads will be there, sadly.

We are going to have to think about what to write.

aarchk

There is guidance on the net for this. A quick google search came up with..


When one parent is deceased

There is no reason why the living parent cannot host the wedding by themselves, which is the same as if one divorced parent hosts the wedding. This would be worded as:
Mr. Mark Allen Jones
requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of his daughter
Maria Louise
However, the deceased parent may be mentioned using the following form. Note that the deceased parent may not host the wedding.
Maria Louise Jones
daughter of Margaret Elizabeth Jones and the late Mark Allen Jones
and
John Matthew Smith
son of Mr. and Mrs. James Michael Smith
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage

TheSeventh

I think that "*Bride* and *Groom*, together with their families, are honoured to request the presence of *guest* at their wedding on... (etc. etc. etc.)" works very nicely.

If you wanted to be more formal, you could say something like "It is an honour to request the presence of *guest* at the wedding of *bride*, daughter of *bride's parents* to *groom*, son of *groom's parents* on *date*, etc. etc. etc."

I mean, she is still the daughter of both her parents, whether they are alive or not - so this includes the parents. if anyone's is worried about ambiguity, you could put "daughter of *mother* and the late *father*", just to be clear.



Apologies to hijack your thread, but could anyone take a glance at my quick draft and see if our informal wording seems okay? we wanted to keep the text as natural as possible, while still being polite and 'timeless'
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thank you!

wanchai_2

Thanks for all the suggestions everyone. I would love to mention my dad on the invite, will have to speak to OH to see if he feels the same about his (can't have one without the other).

Scotsbride

aarchk wrote: »

There is guidance on the net for this. A quick google search came up with..


When one parent is deceased

the deceased parent may be mentioned using the following form. Maria Louise Jones
daughter of Margaret Elizabeth Jones and the late Mark Allen Jones
and
John Matthew Smith
son of Mr. and Mrs. James Michael Smith
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage

I go with this one of course it depends on how formal it is