What's the naughtiest thing you've done at your most skint?

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londonirish wrote: »

firewrym, you are right, but so many people are judgemental sadly.

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However maybe I am judgemental because my friends say sometimes "oooh I got drunk and ended up in bed with a bloke, unprotected sex etc etc. That annoys me, that people could be so careless with safety, sexual health. So I am judged yet I am also judgemental.

I for one am not disgusted by you, I think it's incredibly brave of you too. Prostitution has been going on for a very, very long time and IMHO should be legalised so that it can be done more safely.

I'm judgemental of those people too. You're risking your health and you're risking bringing an unwanted baby into the world because you want to get drunk and sh*g.

bb69

Wow came across this thread whilst searching for a competition for fashion tickets.

I had buried how hard things were for me and my mum whilst I was growing up and do sometimes remind her of how hard we had things and how we have come a long way.

The posts have really moved me and brought back some difficult memories.

Thanks to everyone who has posted your personal stories they serve as a reminder that no matter hard you think life is for you, someone is always worse off.

Good wishes to everyone who has posted on this thread and thank you.

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sparklystar_2

I read this thread last night and it has had me thinking all day about it hard it was at times for my parents when i was little. we ended up with limited resources after redundancy. we went from having the nice house, cars, holidays etc to moving to a tiny place, not having the heating on and very little food. I got a weekend job in a kitchen at 14 and got my meals at work. my pay went on bills. i remember going to college and being amazed that there were so many people there who had allowances and spent the weekend drinking while i was working whenever i could around studying. It also reminded me of what it was like to go without meals and to be hungry. I've always been a workaholic which drives my OH mad - but it had such an impact on me growing up seeing how quickly you can go from being comfortable to having nothing. i'm determined my kids will never have to experience what i went through as a teenager. my parents also stole loo roll! my cupboards are always full of food. when we go on holiday i fill the car up. i have always felt v uneasy about running out of things for the kids so always buy in bulk food and clothes for them.

Londonirish - thanks for sharing your experiences - very humbling to read. i would agree with other pp comments that people prostitute themselves in many different ways - sometimes we need to survive.

out_of_the_dark

I could not be considered a sensitive soul by a stretch of anyone's imagination, but I have never felt quite so humbled by some of the stories on here.

I have lucky enough that no matter how bad I got (and it was very bad) that the bank of Mum and Dad was always there to bale me out, but to those who resorted to some extreme measures I would never judge your actions, only your merits, and anyone who does judge you should ask themselves what they would do if they hit rock bottom.


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ceridwen

Actually Londonirish is one of the few posts I've thanked on here - as, though she has done something that a lot would disagree with, she has retained her honesty and integrity. She did something that was personally hateful - RATHER THAN steal from others. So - I would say she has acted with integrity myself.

It must have been hard indeed to do what she did to deal with the financial problems she had - and I couldnt do it myself - no matter how desperate I was.

Personally - I am positively "neurotic" about making very very sure indeed that I never become that desperate - because I wouldnt do anything like prostitution and I couldnt live with myself if I stole anything (part of my self-respect/self-image IS that I'm an honest person).

So - I wouldnt do either - and I would be desperate indeed in bad circumstances because of my refusal to either do something I would hate personally or steal off others. As I'm also someone who knows that if outside circumstances ever forced me into bankruptcy - I would not take it that "the law has let me off the hook". I would know I still needed to repay every penny I owed (regardless of anything the law said) and would be determined to do so whenever I had the chance (even if it was years later).

So - someone like myself would be in THE worst possible position anyone could be in if things were that desperate financially - because there literally would be "no way out" for me - as I dont do things I'd personally hate/I dont do theft and I dont do continuing to owe money forevermore...so I'd be "hemmed in" on all sides and without ANY of the "escape routes" a lot of people use to deal with this.:(

mandragora_2

In the early 1980's I was lucky enough to get a scholarship to study in the USA for a year. It came with a grant, and I got a p/t job to supplement my income, so had enough to get by on. At the end of the year, a group of us pooled enough money together to fund a 4-week road trip round the states (a newly-divorced friend who was going to do it anyway - three more of us just sort of decided we were going with her too, and pitching in to help with petrol costs) - the opportunity of a lifetime and I took it!

Well, it was enough money if $200 p/p for 4 weeks can be counted 'enough'! We did fine, petrol was the biggest cost, and there was always enough for that. We did a bit of sofa surfing with freinds who happened to live along the route, and then used motels for the rest of the accommodation. At the time, US motels offered huge rooms, but charged per person. Two of us were young, slim, blond and English - we used to be sent in to book and pay for a room - then all four of us would use it. Cheap, I know, but it didn't feel like stealing at the time, as the beds were there, tv, shower etc, and we didn't think we were using any more resources than we would have done if there were just two of us... We also used coupons and deals we picked up along the way, wherever possible.

However, the naughtiest point came when we were in Las Vegas. It was great there, because they were so desperate to get you spending in the casinos, it felt like everything was low cost, free or on a coupon. We ended up in a diner in the small hours. We had a small meal, but I think I must still have been hungry, because I remember seeing a guy who was dead drunk, and who'd fallen into a deep sleep over his all day breakfast - and it looked sooo delicious, and clearly it was just going to go to waste, as he was stocious, and snoring.

I'm afraid *ahem*:o I couldn't stop myself. I slid the plate across and ate it while he dozed on. I look back at it now, and can't quite believe I did it, but I do remember it was delicious..... I also remember that about two minutes after I'd slid the (now empty) plate back in front of him, he roused himself, rubbed his eyes and stared down at his plate in disbelief. We beat a hasty retreat!

adouglasmhor

That made me laugh Mandragora.

FOURCANDLES_2

My friend sold 4 items on ebay 2 years ago he had not go,t valued at £750 each as he was two months in arrears on his mortgage and he could not get a loan, but he knew a savings plan was due out in 4 weeks for 6 k , he stalled the buyers for 2 weeks after they contacted him after the initial 14 days he stated for delivery, by saying some tea leaf must have knicked them he would send another at no extra cost. When his savings plan payment came he went to comet and bought the four items and posted them out and got four glowing positives ,,,i think that what all very naughty.

cactuspotty

When I was a child, one Christmas my mum and dad didn't have any money for a Christmas tree, so they went out and cut one down off the local common.

nikki2804

I remember my dad working as a security guard when i was little. He had keys for all the vending machines/ stock cupboards. There was always industrial sized cleaner, blue roll etc in our house aling with the tubs of hot choccie from the vending machines. It was only a few years ago that i realised that they were liberated.

Although i have never known poverty (or i was well sheilded from it) i can always remember my parents economising and arguing about debt. One good point of this is that im now great with money, too the point that its excessive/obsessive.