Tricky Head Table...

kriss_boy

My fiances parents split up when she was young and they both re-married.

Her dad moved away and so they rarely see one another. He would however be extremely insulted if he wasnt at the head table, and so would my partners step dad.

Can we have 3 sets of parents at the head table! Would it be strange to have both father of the bride and mother of the bride do the speeches? My fiances dad barely knows me

Hollie84

My H2B's parents are re-married but we are only having his mum and dad at the top table.his mum werent to impressed when we said we wasnt having step father buts its a max of 2.5hrs plus he is also our photographer.plus if we have step dad we have to have step mom then because his dad has two girls OH's younger sisters they to would have to be on the table along with his nan as it wouldnt be fair to leave them 3 on the table alone.at the end of the day u cant please everyone so were just pleasing ourselves instead as afterall it is our day and his stepmum isnt fussed about not being on the top table
Also what u need to think about is how would her real dad feel about her step dad being at the table and vice versa

bettyB_2

my parents are divorced and remarried so to avoid family politics we're not having a top table! OH and I are sittting with the bridesmaids, ushers, best man etc. parents are sitting with their families! No one is offended!!

kriss_boy

I like to think Im a pretty diplomatic person but planning this wedding has taught me that generally human beings are incredibly unreasonable!!

I think we are going to end up having both sets of parents up top!!

fawny

At a friends wedding earlier this year, the top table was just Bride & groom, Bridesmaids & bestman. Reason been parents were split with new partner, the parents were just sat with other family & friends seemed to work well.

MrsDrink

kriss_boy wrote: »

Can we have 3 sets of parents at the head table!

Of course you can it's your wedding you can do what you want. There are no rules other than saying your vows and "I do" when it comes to weddings, the rest is just the frills.

If you want everyone to be on the top table, have everyone.

If you don't want them, and are only suggesting they be there out of a sense of what you should do rather than what you want to do then I would say some of the suggestions already made would be a good choice.

74jax

kriss_boy wrote: »

Can we have 3 sets of parents at the head table! urmmm I think I'm missing something here, but I can't see why not? Do you mean will they fit? I'd maybe have a word with your venue and ask how long the table can be, I'm sure they would accommodate your request.

Would it be strange to have both father of the bride and mother of the bride do the speeches? I wouldn't think it would be strange either way. All of my bridal party are fighting to do speeches - me included, I can't wait. My dad isn't making a speech, and I'm not wondering if people think 'ooo isn't it odd the father of the bride isn't making a speech'

Why don't you plan the tables to be who you would like to sit with for the meal and then group others in tables of who knows each other so they have someone to sit with? Do you definately want a top table or could you maybe have free seating where people sit anywhere?

sharpee

I've been to a wedding where only the bride, groom, bridemaids and best man sat at the top table.

Then each set of parents (4 as both parents had remarried) hosted a table each.

Seemed to work and everyone was happy

sickasachip13

We also have a range of parents / step-parents etc etc. I think it's appropriate for all of them to be on the top table but at the mo we're not sure if they will actually fit due to the shape of the room at the venue so we need to check that.

I honestly believe that you shouldn't begin thinking about what people expect and do what you and your OH feel is right - it's your day.

And speeches, we look like having a variety of people doing speeches - I'm the bride and I'm definitely doing one, I can speak for myself after all!!

susannthe3cs

We have the same dilemma yet both sets of parents are divorced and my mum has said
She isn't coming so if I put one step parent on I'd have to pul the other 3 on too
So I'm thinking of having me hubby and our 3 children lol do u think that would be ok x

emz118

We had this dilemma, so have decided to have a "sweetheart table" instead of a top table and sit by ourselves!!!

That way we don't upset anyone and we get to spend a bit of time together, just the 2 of us.

(And it means that the Best Man can sit with his wife - who didn't invite me to their day, which is another story - and I won't have to burden anyone else with keeping her entertained and well behaved!!!)