Who are you inviting?

MrsDrink

Following on from the 'not invited' thread I thought it might be interesting to see who we are planning on inviting Lol It's a bank holiday I'm bored and MrD is sat watching BSB on tv. *Yawn*

So I'll go first:

To the actual ceremony:
My family: Granddad, Mother & her partner, my big brother his fiancee and his 3 children, my other brother, his girlfriend and her daughter.
MrD's family: Mother & father, his sister, her 2 children and her civil partner.

To the reception:
As above plus:
My family: My uncle and his wife. (I have no other family)
MrD's family: His 5 aunties (from his mum's side) and their husbands. (He is choosing to not invite any family from his dad's side which is pretty much the way that side of his family work). 1 of his cousins, her husband and their 3 children (I'm close to this cousin), another of his cousins and his wife, and another of his cousins and his girlfriend. (These cousins he's close with and sees/chats to regularly, where as his others, of which you can imagine are loads with his mum being 1 of 6 sisters, he can pass in the street without saying hi to).
My godmother.
My friends: 1 close friend (+1 if she has a partner by then if she doesn't I won't include a +1), and her 2 children, 1 friend and her husband, 1 close friend (my chief bridesmaid if I was having one) (+1 if she wants to bring someone as she won't really know anyone else at the party). 1 friend and her husband.
MrD's work colleagues: Ex-boss and wife, his current business partner, his two employees.

On the reserves list:
MrD's friend (+1 who I assume would be his wife, but I haven't met her). (I do feel sad that MrD has chosen his work colleagues over his friends - but it's his decision).
7 of my work colleagues.


This gives us a grand total of 54 guests Plus us two (24 are my guests, 30 are his), with 9 on the reserves list.

Debbiecatal

To the legal ceremony Bride's parents and brother, Bridegroom's parents and sister, the 2 best men and 2 bridesmaids

To the humanist ceremony and wedding breakfast, all the above, plus bride's grandmother, some aunts, uncles and cousins (the ones who are closest to the bride and groom) plus particular friends of the bride and groom (about 70 people in all)

To the evening reception, all the above, plus more aunts uncles, cousins, friends, work colleagues and close neighbours (about 200 in all)

It's a real nightmare having a large family - so many are not being invited at all and some will be offended that they are only invited to the evening, but what can you do? Not made of money!

becca0417

Day:
My side - my mum, dad, brother and his GF, my sister (bm), my nan, aunty and her son, other aunty and uncle, cousin 1, her OH and their daughter (Flowergirl), cousin 2 and her OH. Grandad and step-nan. 6 of my best friends and partners. 3x old family friends. Nans sister.
OHs side - his dad, brother (BM), nan, grandad, aunty, uncle and 2x cousins. Mum's not on scene for various reasons. His 2 best friends and partners. His boss, wife and daughter.

Evening:
Me - Children of family friends, MoHs siblings.
Him - work friends x6million (haha), few of his friends and their partners.

I have loads more to the day but he doesnt have much family and is a tightwad lol

ellay864

We've got a total of 44 people in addition to me and OH:
My 2 sons and their partners
OH's son and daughter and their partners
My mum
OH mum
My brother and his partner
OH sister plus her guest
And that's it for family. All the others are friends of ours
For the evening the rest of my family are too far away to travel just for an evening. We've invited 4 of OH's family plus their partners, so far one couple has declined and we've not heard from the others. The rest of the invited guests are friends (or partners of the band). Whenever we say ours is fairly small numbers, people assume it's family only - we're the reverse and doing almost all friends only!

Claree__x

We both have massive families so to the day we're inviting my mum's side of the family (2 x Grandparents, 7 x Aunts & Uncles and 10 x cousins) in addition to my mum, step-dad, their 2 foster kids and my brother.

His side of the family he's inviting just adults, so no cousins - at the moment, but this is subject to change!

bride2be2012

Day guests:
Me - Mum; Dad; 2 Sister (oldest sister will get a +1 if she has a partner at the time); best friend (bridesmaid) and her husband (her husband has recently joined the RAF though, so they don't know if he can make it yet); 11 aunties and uncles (including a family friend who isn't really an aunty, but I've called her aunty since I was wee)

OH - Mum; Dad; siblings (3 brothers, 1 sister), plus 3 OH's; 8 nieces; 3 cousins plus their OHs; and best friend (best man).

Evening:
Me - 12 cousins; 6 close friends, plus their OH'S; handful of workmates

OH - He hasn't decided yet!! But will include some old friends and workmates I'd imagine.

Both sets of parents will be inviting some friends to the evening only, but me and OH will get the final say! :rotfl:

74jax

ooo this is hard as we haven't even made a guest list, so this could be my trial run (might prompt OH to make his trial run guest list too!)

Civil Service, Ideally me and OH and DD, however we've extended it to:
my BF and her son (no +1)
My brother and sister in law (my nephews just to the 'after part')
OH brother and sister in law
Which is 9 in total.

For the 'after part',
My Nephews (2 of them, no +1)
Parents (although we haven't decided on whether they would be at the ceremony or not)
My close friend and her DD (no +1)
My close friend, husband and DD
2 x friends from work (one with partner and one without)
Friend
Neighbour x 2 and DD and her fiance
Wow which makes 17 on my 'really would like there' list

That's scary, I thought the venue we really would like for the evening should be ruled out as it holds 80 and I thought it would look empty, however if I've got 26 and H2B has the same, then it might be a possibility.

sharpee

We went small as;

1. Both sets of parents are divorced and remarried and can't have both set of parents in the same room at the same time, plus niether are close to our fathers.

2. My family os 5 his is 50+!!!

So we inviting

Bride: Mother, Step-father, Brother, Brothers Girlfriend, Aunt & 2 friends plus their other halves.

Groom: Mother, Aunt, Sister, Sisters Partner, 2 nieces, Mothers Friend and Best friend and partner

So 9 guests each plus H2B Son

A nice number of 21 for a lovely intimate day!

Although I have a sneaking suspicion his family think they will all be getting an invite despite us being very clear on the subject!

74jax

sharpee wrote: »

Although I have a sneaking suspicion his family think they will all be getting an invite despite us being very clear on the subject!

We should have another thread - who are you not inviting (that expects an invite) :rotfl:. Until I'd got engaged I never realized people actually 'expect' to be invited................

I work for a large company but in a small office (5 including me). I socialize with 2 of them loads and text and call weekends etc so these two are invited to my wedding. The other is the boss who I don't speak with much and so that leaves one other girl, who outside of work, we have no communication at all. So she's not invited either, despite her inviting me to her wedding - apparently that means I should invite her to mine..................

ampafc

We have 130 coming during the day, with a further 120 at night.

MrsDrink

74jax wrote: »

We should have another thread - who are you not inviting (that expects an invite) :rotfl:. Until I'd got engaged I never realized people actually 'expect' to be invited................

I work for a large company but in a small office (5 including me). I socialize with 2 of them loads and text and call weekends etc so these two are invited to my wedding. The other is the boss who I don't speak with much and so that leaves one other girl, who outside of work, we have no communication at all. So she's not invited either, despite her inviting me to her wedding - apparently that means I should invite her to mine..................

Hahaaaa we really are twins! Ideally I'd have a massive budget and huge venue (our venue is our garden so ideally we'd live in a mansion and could accommodate hundreds of people). But we don't so we've had to restrict guests somehow... the first cut was the easiest - all my work colleagues. At the end of the day I don't socialise with any of them... but breaking the news to them that they wouldn't be invited was bloomin hard work. Some of their faces showed they clearly expected to be part of the day!!