2nd wedding selfishness?

Scotsbride

As it's a second wedding not that you would do this but please bear in mind to include yours and your OH family in photos especially if they're children. My step mum neglected to have us in any of the photos until my sister asked my dad if he would like to have any photos with his family. We were also put on the worst table furtherest from everyone and near a very wet door that was open cause the hog roast was outside on a wet november so we put up with driving rain! As for expecting gifts I personally don't expect anything from guests but if they ask then have sugest a few things that you might like. People don't have the money they use too so bear in mind that they will be looking at smaller items.

ellay864

As somebody about to get married for the 2nd time...and it's OH's 2nd time too...I would never EXPECT anybody to attend or buy or do anything they didn't want to. But I never EXPECTED anybody to attend or buy etc the first time. People were invited first time, people are invited 2nd time...it's entirely up to them how they feel. Just because this is my 2nd wedding doesn't make it any less special to me. Both my OH and I were cheated on, in my case my ex left me for another woman. But in any case this day is about US and the past is to a large extent irrelevant. We love each other and want to share our lives together, we're having a wedding ceremony marking that commitment and are inviting people to share in our very special day. There are a few guests invited who came to my first wedding but as close friends/family I know that they realise what this relationship means and they want to be part of it. I don't think any of them feel like they're going through it all over again. I would have no problem with a guest not attending, but tbh would be quite shocked and upset if people that I consider to be close to me felt that my wedding day this time round was something not worth bothering about just because they'd already done it once. I would hope they're not so shallow

MrsDrink

Putting the whole 'expectation' thing to one side...
Weddings are supposed to be a public declaration of love and commitment to each other. Does the fact it's their second/third/fourth/etc wedding mean they love each other less than their previous partners and are less committed to each other? In my opinion it doesn't.

floss2

Scotsbride wrote: »

As it's a second wedding not that you would do this but please bear in mind to include yours and your OH family in photos especially if they're children. My step mum neglected to have us in any of the photos until my sister asked my dad if he would like to have any photos with his family.....

My 2 children both stood in to replace my late father - DS1 gave me away & DS2 gave the "son of the bride" speech. DH doesn't have any children.