Help to find work - not on benefits

Samanthamum

Is there anywhere that will help me find work if I am not on benefits? I am currently working and need to find another job as this one is making me ill. I really need a full time job, but have had to reduce my hours at work as I cant cope. I have a number of health conditions, including social anxiety and find it difficult even to fill out forms as i get very anxious.

Our financial situation is dire and my husband threatened to leave last night if i dont get a full time job or up my hours at work. Then i really will be stuck as I dont even work 16 hours to claim tax credits (have one child)

I looked at remploy website, but dont thing i qualify as i am not on benefits.

I am so scared. I just want to quit my job as i cry everyday

saintjammyswine

Contact Next Step. Their advisors can help on a range of subjects including training and careers.
Try your doctor as well because it sounds like your health is seriously at risk both physical and mental. You need to talk to someone, please dont take this the wrong way but your husband may simply be showing the signs of stress & mental fatigue as well, I'm sure it was a reaction to your circumstances but as I have never met you I cant tell. Maybe you both need to go to the doctor or maybe CAB together. Good Luck though.

Samanthamum

Thank you. I know the main cause of my mental health problems is my job. However, I need to work and no amount of pills/therapy will fix that. The simple fact is i dont want to work as it is scary and i hate dealing with pushy/agressive people, which happens in most jobs.

I need to find a job where customer abuse is nil and i am beginning to thing that isnt possible on minimum wage.

We have enough money to cover the bills, so doubt CAB would help. but nothing left for extras. My husband is frustrated as we are on the poverty line as I am too scared to find a full time job.

I know i need to pull my weight and get myself out of thsi rut. Will try next step. Thank you.

saintjammyswine

Samanthamum wrote: »

My husband is frustrated as we are on the poverty line.......

I know i need to pull my weight and get myself out of thsi rut......

Dont think like that, please. I can understand your husband's frustration (not taking sides by the way). I have been on both sides of this and you feel helpless on either. Your situation is that you feel there is nothing more you can do due to issues and the current economy, your husband feels much the same way but can't really talk about it as it is happening to you and doesn't want to sound as though he doesnt care by talking about himself.
Please note this is based on only my experiences and is only meant to show that you are not the only ones. As I said I have been on both and neither is a great place to be but it can and I hope will change. The main thing to do is make sure you keep talking, both to each other and to any agencies out there that can offer help. Much the same with debts, talking and getting it out in the open can relieve such pressure that things start to work themselves out.

Horace

You could look at agencies such as Pertemps, Reed etc and register with them to find work.

Unfortunately, in most jobs you will have to deal with customers who can sometimes appear aggressive especially if they are not hearing the answer that they want. In those situations let them shout and get it out of their system - don't argue with them and when they pause for breath then say something, even if it means asking them for their details and saying that you will call them back - make sure that you do call them back too.

I have been stressed through work and know how incapable you start to feel so I have some sympathy there, however, I do think that you need to see a doctor who maybe able to prescribe something and perhaps you should use the grievance procedure at work if there is someone in particular who is causing you angst.

If you work more than 16hrs and have a child then you may be entitled to working tax credits too. Maybe your husband could claim the tax credits if he is working more than 16hrs? It is a thought.

Hammyman

Samanthamum wrote: »

My husband is frustrated as we are on the poverty line as I am too scared to find a full time job.

So what is he doing to improve the situation? I worked 60hr weeks. Sorry but part of the reason you're on the poverty line is down to him as well.

claire16c

I agree with the above.

Why doesnt your husband get himself a better paying job? I suppose he'd say its not that easy...

I do think you should go to the doctor. They can refer you to someone who can help with your anxiety problems. It sounds as though your husband is only making those problems worse, he should be supporting you not having a go at you, and working together as a team.

I suggest going to a job agency or just looking for a job yourself online etc.

I have worked in retail shops before and I didnt get that many pushy or aggressive customers, it was fairly low stress. What exactly is the type of work you are doing?

Ive also worked in a retailers head office and we sometimes would get customers writing in or complaining to the customers services dept, and sometimes wed had to work in store for a day, and occasionally youd get a really moody customer, but we would just laugh it off as a team. Try not to take customers being aggressive personally, its not you in particular they are angry with. The post by Horace has some good suggestions on what to do.

smileylondongal

I agree with the posters that ask you to visit your GP. You need to deal with this before it gets completely out of hand. My brother has a social anxiety and it actually stops him getting out of the house now due to how far it's gone - he needs to be driven to his counsellor. Please don't let it get that way for you.

Your husband is probably (unreasonably may be) letting off steam at you as he's probably worried sick about the situation. I do find agencies for temp work quite good or Next Step are pretty good too.