Working from home..getting to me.

dilemma10

Hi everybody
I have posted here multiple times before. In my job there are massive highs and big lows. I feel very privileged to be in a job like mine at the age of 23 - I earn £28k a yr, all expenses paid, £4.2k a yr pension but work from home. The job is quite prestigious in the fact that I work directly to the CEO, get to meet top civil servants and officials and ministers and write and send policy papers to them. I get good exposure and if I stay around I will work my way up in the sector.
However, the working from home is seriously getting to me and I am not sure how much longer I can do this for. I had an open conversation with my boss and she said she thinks I should leave in say 10 months time and in the meantime she will ask around for jobs for me in government.
This is a high burn out job - I do the work of at least 3 people combined, it's a small team and the pressure is phenomenal. I find it hard to switch off in the evening, I get e-mails at the weekend, and my boss is very very picky - not just this, she manipulates awfully, making us all do personality tests, she then goes over and over my 'type' over dinners together.
I am just not sure if I can keep it together, I haven't seen anything remotely well paid as this job in my hometown (in the midlands) either and I am fed up with London after living there for a year, too expensive, far from family etc.
What on earth should I do!

hcb42

I think I have read your earlier threads

you have to make a decision, what do you want from life.

You are not on such a massive salary that it could not be achieved in the Midlands, or slightly less with less outgoings etc.

Do you want short term pain for long term gain, or do you want the quiet life now, but you might not get the buzz of the same lifestyle etc...

we all get emails at the weekends - I've been in my job a week and I already have them - you have to decide whether you answer them or not...

You are on a low salary for the work you appear to do - but only you can decide if it is worth the pain for your future career prospects...depends on your personal goals etc..

good luck

katebl

Hi dilemma,

I don't usually post on here and definitely don't often remember posters but for some reason I knew exactly who you were from your post and remember your previous threads on your job situation and your rotten boss! It's obviously been some time that you've been feeling like this, and seeing as from what I remember before you were reluctant to work from the office and now you're unhappy working from home, this tells me it's not the location but the job itself you don't like.

I'm a bit older than you (not much) and while the figures you quote for salary and perks are impressive, you're still young and who's to say you won't work your way up to similar money back home eventually? It seems a case of money & kudos vs your happiness, and long-term the latter is far more important. If I were you (no commitments) I'd have quit by now.

diable

Can you re write your post to make it easier to understand, thanks.

getmore4less

dilemma10 wrote: »

Hi everybody
I have posted here multiple times before. In my job there are massive highs and big lows. I feel very privileged to be in a job like mine at the age of 23 - I earn £28k a yr, all expenses paid, £4.2k a yr pension but work from home. The job is quite prestigious in the fact that I work directly to the CEO, get to meet top civil servants and officials and ministers and write and send policy papers to them. I get good exposure and if I stay around I will work my way up in the sector.
However, the working from home is seriously getting to me and I am not sure how much longer I can do this for. I had an open conversation with my boss and she said she thinks I should leave in say 10 months time and in the meantime she will ask around for jobs for me in government.
This is a high burn out job - I do the work of at least 3 people combined, it's a small team and the pressure is phenomenal. I find it hard to switch off in the evening, I get e-mails at the weekend, and my boss is very very picky - not just this, she manipulates awfully, making us all do personality tests, she then goes over and over my 'type' over dinners together.
I am just not sure if I can keep it together, I haven't seen anything remotely well paid as this job in my hometown (in the midlands) either and I am fed up with London after living there for a year, too expensive, far from family etc.
What on earth should I do!

I think she might be playing you with that first comment you are probably cheap and needs time to find a replacement and also does not want another leaver. Whats this outfit make for the other people.

Play the tests read up about how they work and manipulate your answers.
Might also be worth reading a bit about manipultive techniques like NLP the boss might be using those.

At 23 it will be diffiicult to push back and ballance how far you can go yo restoring a ballance

You have to get away from "work" which is home.
Make sure you have a seperate area with phone/computer for work that you can shut off.

Go out some evenings with friends and away a weekend(non contactable)

What happens when you take holiday?

Use the contacts to find something better don't let the boss manage it.

what about a local MP's office.

juliettelixora

well in order for you to decide think of your self like 5-10 years from now. And then think of the things that you have saved up and start to compare your life on those cases. I'm sure you want something more better to happen and have good quality life in the future that's why you are pursuing and pushing so hard at the moment while you can. It is a good idea to suffer first or have pain the in the front row since it will all pay off later the moment you have enough.

Just seat back and do what you can and plan things out right. Since when you plan you can adjust and determine what kind of life awaits you.

good luck!

feelex

diable wrote: »

Can you re write your post to make it easier to understand, thanks.

I understood it perfectly.

chipmunk

feelex wrote: »

I understood it perfectly.

Yes, me too.

[Deleted User]

Yes, I understood perfectly as well.

It seems that you know that you don't want to be doing that job forever. So that's one option ruled out. What you need to work out is what you do want. Not necessarily what you want to be working as now, but what you want to be doing in the future. Something that you can see yourself doing long term, and enjoying.

Then once you have figured that out, you need to identify what it is that you need to do to get there (varied experience, more work experience, qualifications, contacts, other skills etc). Once you have figured this out you need to weigh up the options and see if you can cope with the journey to get there (if it will take years and years of work experience in a stressful job that you hate - it might not be worth it. Being highly stressed and unhappy will only lead to ill health and burn out).

We spend so much of our lives at work, it really is important to find somethig that's enjoyable to do - or at the very least does not have adverse affects on health or life.

I wish you luck in figuring it all out. Perhapse you could speak to someone higher up in your current place of work that you trust (who isn't your boss) and ask them for advice, guidance?

D9

Rockporkchop

What do you want people to say?

You post the same thing over and over again and never do anything about it, and never take any of the advice people on here give you. If you are desperately unhappy in your job then look for a new one. Life is very short. I have wasted far too many years, decades even, being unhappy in jobs and staying just for the high salary and I do regret that now.

Sounds like you have had a £5k payrise since you last posted though so presumably they have started to recognise your hard work more?