Black bra

katerinasol

I remember when I was younger and just started wearing bras, eventually I wanted a black one and the thing that stuck with me was that my mum was initially reluctant to buy one for me, the way she reacted was almost like I was going to show it off to someone.

She wasn't so shocked a few years later when I bought my first Wonderbra

So, question to all of you... do you think black bras are inappropriate for children to wear? If you had a young daughter and she asked for one, would you buy her one or try to talk her out of it? What if it was a red one?

PudseyDB

katerinasol wrote: »

I remember when I was younger and just started wearing bras, eventually I wanted a black one and the thing that stuck with me was that my mum was initially reluctant to buy one for me, the way she reacted was almost like I was going to show it off to someone.

She wasn't so shocked a few years later when I bought my first Wonderbra

So, question to all of you... do you think black bras are inappropriate for children to wear? If you had a young daughter and she asked for one, would you buy her one or try to talk her out of it? What if it was a red one?

How young are we talking about?

My youngest daughter who's 13 year old has grey, bright pink, black and spotty - in addition to the white ones she wears under her white school blouse. Under a black top, a white bra shows up - and my daughter wears bright tops so why not coloured underwear to match?

She doesnt have a red one - but that's probably because we havent seen any red ones in her size!

katerinasol

PudseyDB wrote: »

How young are we talking about?

My youngest daughter who's 13 year old has grey, bright pink, black and spotty - in addition to the white ones she wears under her white school blouse. Under a black top, a white bra shows up - and my daughter wears bright tops so why not coloured underwear to match?

She doesnt have a red one - but that's probably because we havent seen any red ones in her size!

I think I was about 9/10 when mine started growing - I was an early starter!

I think my mum was quite old-fashioned in that respect, in her opinion white bras were the 'proper' thing to wear and black ones were more 'sexy' if that makes sense?

PudseyDB

katerinasol wrote: »

I think my mum was quite old-fashioned in that respect, in her opinion white bras were the 'proper' thing to wear and black ones were more 'sexy' if that makes sense?

It does! I dont think the colours are an issue (unless its a coloured bra under a white top - which just looks tacky!) - its more to do with the style and decoration - how much lace and how see-through they are! :eek:

jenniewb

Have to admit, I was shocked when I read the original question: a child wearing a bra....in my mind, something there isn't right! I then think back to my teenage years which to me I guess wasn't a time I considered myself to be a 'child' at the time, yet I would do now, I think it really depends on the age as one persons 'child' is another persons 'teenager'.

If its any help, when I was at school black bras under white shirts (so they would show!) were something everyone did just to be included in a group but this was the '90s when the whole bra-under-sheer-top thing were top of the bill and grown adults would wear the same thing, at one point a teacher did! (Though I think she may have been 'told' as she never wore that combo again!!). But in answer to your question, when a 'child' is able to know right from wrong in terms of forward advances from men/boys and able to say "no" with some authority, then a black bra becomes something I'd be happy to let my child wear. Unfortunatly peer pressure and bullying often prevent this type of mindset developing the way it should.

glowgirl_2

I do have a young daughter (she is nearly 16 now) and I have been through this, I bought her any colour she wanted including black and I also bought her lightly padded bras not as an enhancment but as a modesty measure, she was in late primary at the time. As a young girl she didnt wear see through clothes and she would have had to wear an appropriate bra and top together, not a black bra under a white top etc:)

balletshoes

I don't see any problem with a black or red (or any other colour) bra for a girl who's just starting to wear them. My DD is 10, I'm pretty sure by the time this year is out she'll be wearing bras. White for under her school clothes, but in my opinion, colour co-ordinated bras under vest tops etc just makes sense.

We were in New Look yesterday, and in their range of small and first-size bras they have packs of 2, white and black in a pack.

Vaila

No ofcourse they are not and you would have to be pretty narrow minded to think that they are!

maman

I'm guessing that OP put this up mainly as a fashion question, in which case, I haven't a problem with young girls wearing any colour. I particularly like the girls who show coloured straps at this time of the year-much better than grubby white or even black which would look much too heavy for most summer tops. I'm guessing that OP's mum had an aversion to black because wearing them under white shirts was considered tarty by the older generation.

On the more moral question I am appalled that bras are sold for little girls who really don't need them. But that's another story....

Lady_S

I have more problem with the style of bras than the colour.

My SD is 13 now, but started wearing one when she was about 10. She wanted some (in my eyes) inappropriate underwired lacy affairs from Primark and I knew if I returned home with them her dad would go ape. So I did say no at that point.

It just didn't feel right buying her quite sexy underwear at her age. Before she reached senior school she was asking for lacy knickers aswell, to which I also wasn't comfortable. (all over lace, not just an edge).

I probably am a bit careful about what I think she should have. But, she was a child at the point she was asking for these things and in my eyes they weren't age appropriate. However, the older she gets the more broad minded you have to get about what she can have.

fannyanna

I've never thought of the colour alone making a bra sexy or not. Even a red bra can look pretty drab if it's a very basic style.

As others have said it's more the style of the bra that would determine whether or not it was appropriate for a child/young teen.