to buy electric or not...

postingalwaysposting

... earlier this week i used some of my money (supposed to go into my savings accounts) to put money on the gas... now todays pay day... and except for the money thats going out as normal to my savings accounts i am not putting any extra in (being xmas and my birthday soon)... so i am really deciding if i should put some electric in... all my xmas presents are brought and except for my meal on the 31st i have no spends this month anyways... plus my mum is finding it very hard to pay the bill and get xmas gifts... so what do you all think... shall i buy electric or not... see the otherside of the coin is i dont want my mum to rely on me for extra cash (along side my housekeeping which at the moments been paid to a dca from me on her behalf)... :rolleyes:

lynzpower

:wave: hi flower

You'll know my answer. the answer is NO.

Your mum needs to know you are not going to bail her out, and she needs to take responsibility for this herself now. Im sad to see shes still relying on you
im sure you have given her all the advice you can If anything the xmas presents must be reduced, and she can then afford electric. She shouldnt be using the electric money for anything else, as you already know

Be strong.
Lynz
xx

Batfink

You should always be kind to your parents, I'd buy some electricity. Won't be much fun sat in the dark on Christmas morning!!

Batfink x

nielingren

Batfink wrote:

You should always be kind to your parents, I'd buy some electricity. Won't be much fun sat in the dark on Christmas morning!!

Batfink x

yeah i think the same look what your mum has done for you.
family comes first.

nearlyrich

I wouldn't see my mum in need either she has been known to give me her last tenner when I had nowt!

BUT on the other hand I understand the dilemma and Lynz's point about having her rely on you, how about a compromise, Mum it's Christmas next week we are all going to be watching more telly, cooking etc so just this month I am giving you X extra?

postingalwaysposting

still cant decide :rolleyes: i really want to help my mum but as lynz says i have helped her so much... but shes my mum...

ZTD

postingalwaysposting wrote:

still cant decide :rolleyes: i really want to help my mum but as lynz says i have helped her so much... but shes my mum...

Your situation is not the usual one - usually it's the parents bailing the kids out, but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Many parents bailed their kids out time and again, and gave them nothing but misery.

whatatwit

I agree with Lynz, that you should not have to get the electric, as no doubt you already contribute a fair amount as board.
But, If you want to help out a bit, then give her a bit extra towards x-mas expenses in general and let her decide what it gets used for.

Ps, how much is that Wii of yours using.

melaniec_2

prehaps you could pay the electric without her knowing? that way its not cut off but she has to also consider how to manage the situation

nielingren

why can't she pay for it her self? is it her fault or is it just she can't get enough money in.

if its the first one don't pay

is its number 2 i would lend the money and ask her to pay you back when she can

lynzpower

postingalwaysposting wrote:

still cant decide :rolleyes: i really want to help my mum but as lynz says i have helped her so much... but shes my mum...

Yes darling, shes your mum. Therrefore she should be the one who looks after the running of the household, and caring for you, not the other way around.

With the best will in the world, I see a lot of posts where you are bailing your mum out, and you have been doing so over and above your board a few times.

My parents bailed me out time & time again, did it work? NO.
If you bail out your mum repeatedly she will rely on you even more than she already does to pay the bills.

I know your mum has done an SOA, why hasnt she been able to stick to it.

Personally if it comes to it, Id put electric on on Xmas eve if she hasnt got her act together, but no more than a tenner.