When should you....

zcrat41

.....write your thank you notes?

We get married on the 25th June this year. Lots of people have very generously already bought from out gift list (we get an email so we know when someone's bought something.)

I'm half scottish and my scottish rellies have alredy bought and given us presents. Its traditional in Scotland to write the thank you note straight away which I've done.

However, I really want to do this for the English ones too as after our honeymoon we go straight into working 80 hr weeks for harvest so I'll struggle to do them. I don't think its rude but I'm not sure how it'll go down with my guests (lots of them are farmers so I'll be able to mention it in the thank you note)

Any thoughts people?

Thanks

ZC

RainbowDrops

If you're not using a wedding photo as a thank you card you could always start on them now & keep going as you get more gift list updates. You can waut till after your honeymoon before you post them.

White_Sapphire

As far as I know thank you notes are written as presents are bought in England too. I can't see how it would be thought of as rude to send a thank you note early. I reckon do them when you will have the time, ie now!

x

zcrat41

Thanks White Sapphire!

Rainbow drops - that was my original plan. But last night I sat and wrote a few with sentences like, "we had such a lovely day and it was so great you could join us" but I felt like I was jinxing the wedding to go wrong!

RainbowDrops

zcrat41 wrote: »

Rainbow drops - that was my original plan. But last night I sat and wrote a few with sentences like, "we had such a lovely day and it was so great you could join us" but I felt like I was jinxing the wedding to go wrong!

You could always say something like "thank you for sharing our special day with us" which doesn't seem so much like your writing as if the day has passed already.

Or just thank for the gift & say something about using it in your married life.

LEJC

I prepared some thankyous in advance for the presents/gifts we received before the wedding and them added a pic from the day and finished the other thank yous within the first 2 weeks after the wedding....
We tried to match a pic of us with the relevant guest to make the thankyous personal...or at least so everyone didnt receive a bulk standard photo and included thanking them for their item eg toaster and a line hoping they enjoyed the day as much as we did...

From the point of view of a guest its lovely to receive a handwritten personal thankyou within a reasonable time frame after the wedding...I aimed to have completed my thank you cards within 1 month after the wedding if that helps...

floss2

Why not:

"Thank you for your thoughtful gift of xxxx; it will be well used / cared for / remind us of you every time it is used.

We are so pleased that you are planning to share our special day with us, and we are looking forward to seeing everyone joining our celebration. Please remember to bring your camera, and if you wish to upload your photos, this is our wedding website www.xxxx.xxx.xx"

zcrat41

Thanks people. Its not so much the wording I have a problem with as I can easily string together a few lines about thanks for the gift, its making H2B's house feel like our home and looking forwards to seeing them at the wedding etc etc. Its more the fact that my BM was horrified that I knew already what some people had bought us already - she was convinced its de rigeur to not get gifts and therefore thank someone till after the wedding. I thought the tradition came from the days when family/friends would arrive in the weeks running up to the wedding with a gift and on the day they were on view in the dining room!

LECJ - that's exactly why I'm thinking of doing them beforehand -I think its the height of rudeness to leave a thank you note for anything longer than a couple of weeks!