Staff Xmas party help desp needed

VenuS

bengal-stripe wrote:

I believe any person who has no sense of decency and invents such a barefaced lie as a death in the family (when there was none) ought to be hit instantly by a real death within their family.

That’s not a white lie, that’s a raven black one. Sorry, I find that inexcusable. I had a death in the family recently.

Sorry for your loss, but to wish it upon someone else?, I think your words are in-excusable also.

Seaxwyn

I agree with bengal-stripe - some things are too serious to be lied about. I once had to cancel an appointment because of a death in the family. It would be terrible in those circumstances to be treated with suspicion because it had become a corny excuse.

I also think it's irresponsible to advise someone to skip a work-related event. The original post made it seem like Tan's presence was required and while of course parties are 'optional', refusing to go when she'd been specifically asked could look like a bad attitude and jeopardise her job or potential promotion etc. We can make these decisions on our own behalf but encouraging someone without knowing the full circumstances feels irresponsible to me.

lynzpower

Id "accidentally" lose my purse if i was looking for an excuse.

without a purse you cant get the bus, or pay for the meal.

tan160581

Just to update you i faked a illness and didnt go - i felt bad about it but i only had £30 to spend and from what my manager told me the next day they spent lots on the wine list which no way could i have afforded
also i just didnt feel comftable being me, im not used to being oveweight and hate how i look at the moment which adds to my depression so i think i made the right decision in the end for me
Thanks every1 for yr advice it really helped;)

dmg24

Thanks for the update Tan.

I hope things get better for you soon x