Children's hair.

Sweet_Pea_2

When I was younger, a family member cut his grandsons hair (just the fringe I think) and it caused such a massive row that the family member did not see his grandson again for at least 15 years. It's a really emotive subject obviously! I agree with all the other posters, I would have a blue fit if anyone cut my childrens hair without my say so.

jetta_wales

The longer you let her walk all over you the worst it will get because by never putting your foot down you're effectively giving her permission to keep acting this way as far as she's concerned.

Stick up for yourself and more importantly, stick up for your children! Nobody else will, it's your job as their Mum to be tougher than this and to set a good example for them to never let people walk over them either.

globetraveller

polejunkie wrote: »

My daughter is naturally blonde but since it was cut looks really mousy and dull. She loved having it ragged for ringlets. The thing is with my mum is she is very controlling, she cannot accept the fact we have all grown up. Neither of my siblings have children so they dont get this invasion, one lives with my dad still and our sister has just moved back in to her house and already has her room laid out to her taste ( my mums not hers) she will pass things on to me that she doesn't need but I am not allowed to get rid of it to make way for the things I want. She gave me 2 small sofa's for my new house which have seen better days and dont fit the room properly but she wont hear of me getting 1 bigger sofa I also have 2 reception rooms in my house, she donated more furniture to fill that even though I was going to use it for my business to bring in more income. She still males me feel like a child sometimes.

Well its time to stop being a child. Get rid of the furniture. In a way its your fault your mum cut your child's hair. She knows you never stand up to her. So make your stand. Also tell her if she cuts the hair again she won't be seeing her grandchildren unsupervised. She may not even see them again for a long time as your daughter will be too scared of her.
I'm on your side although it may not have seemed like it but I don't think you need sympathy now- for a form of "tough love."
Good luck:)

donquine

Seeing as your children were upset when their hair was cut short (i.e. it's an issue for them as individuals, it's not just something that's important to you as their parent), you should take steps to prevent them from being in that position again.

Many people may think, hair is hair, it'll grow back, but to someone with long hair, it can be very much a part of their identity. To lose it for a completely preventable reason, can be very upsetting.

If you think that a family member is going to cut their hair short, don't allow unsupervised access. It's that simple. Outsiders may perceive it as a complete overreaction, but at the end of the day, your children's opinion is far more important.

polejunkie

gingin wrote: »

Edited to add a nosey question - Is your mother from a different culture where perhaps elders are regarded or maybe regard themselves as head of the family?

Yes there is a cultural difference, she comes from her own planet.

emsywoo123

polejunkie wrote: »

Yes there is a cultural difference, she comes from her own planet.

OP how old are your children?

p_joker

going off subject a little but my dad has told me about his eldest son, when he was little he had sticky out ears and used to grow his hair long to cover them and he had a visit with his nan and Granddad and they took him for a hair cut, when he came home his mother went mad and made him wear a balaclava to school lol, tell your mum she had her turn when you were a kid so now its your turn and to mind her own, we have to cut one of our sons hair quite short because people think hes a girl when it gets a bit long

Kate78

With this one and the ear piercing thread, these are decisions that should be made by the parents and the child when they are old enough.

Why anyone else thinks it's ok to step in and go ahead and cut someone else's kid's hair or get their ears pierced without the parent's say so is beyond me. Even if it's aunty or granny, no, still not their place.

mummyyof5

My son is 4 ...he has blonde hair with a fringe and his hair is half way down his back....even at his age there is no way he would let anyone cut his hair...he loves it long...he also loves rock music...so thinks he is a rocker..bless him.

I wouldnt even allow anyone to brush my DDs hair when they were young so if anyone had took scissors to it I would have comiited murder...how dare anyone take it upon themselves to cut another persons childs hair?????

Emmzi

"I'm not leaving the kids with you because you are homophobic and I want them to grow up with the value that everyone is equal and it is ok to be whoever they want to be."

There. That's the REAL problem solved.