Yet another SOA!!

Ineedaname

JCS1 wrote: »

Parents do not need to declare this money, as they not are using the rent a room scheme with its tax exemptions (I believe close family can not be included anyway).

I did say this earlier in response to Kepar, so thanks for confirming.

Kepar - JCS is a very experienced board member with a sound background in BR matters. If he says figures appear reasonable then I think it is unfair of you to challenge that by saying you think they are excessive.

If you are happy for your lad to pay only £200 board then that is your choice. Other families may be more pressed for money and need the additional contribution from their offspring.

Please remember, we are not here to judge anyone's situation. If the OP says their parents want £500 per month for board, then we have to accept that figure. JCS has said it's comparable to renting away from home which I understand is what an OR will look at.

If it was excessive then we could comment, but we have no right to tell someone to go tell their parents not to charge so much. It is what it is in their situation.

kepar

Kepar - JCS is a very experienced board member with a sound background in BR matters. If he says figures appear reasonable then I think it is unfair of you to challenge that by saying you think they are excessive.

If his parents need £500 a month plus him to buy his groceries, then they are in a worse situation than he is. How are they going to manage when he moves out,
Also JSC1 have you got any children, judging by INAN's posts she hasn't got any. So how much would charge your child for living at home?

tommo2007

JCS1 - Thank you for your input, that is much appreciated I don't think there is any problem with the figures myself, as that is my agreement with my parents - and like you said, I am essentialy paying everything I would be paying elsewhere

INAN - Again, my many thanks for your input mate

kepar - Not to sound harsh, but I think you are being a little ignorant towards me. I did not post this to have somebody judging me, but on the contrary, to help me along. I don't know how you dare say "they are in a worse situation than he is" - what gives you the right to judge my parent's situation and start looking down your nose and getting high and mighty? I really don't see why you are trying to be so judgemental. Look at the other posters here, and how helpful they are being and giving CONSTRUCTIVE advice

Rant over.

Thanks for all of the help guys.

INAN/tigerfeet/JCS1 - on the original SOA I had the figures, and obviously entertainment is out, I have added in a couple of bits as recommended, I am just a little stumped on the "groceries" figure - is the £60 reasonable, should it be higher/lower - with the amount of board I am paying?

Thanks for all the help

Tom

kepar

Going back to your initial post.

or reference, I am single living at home with my parents (rent is my board). Am looking to move in with my partner soon, at which point the £500 I pay in board will become payments towards bills and rent.

When you move in with your partner, your payments will change as you will be expected to pay a proportion of all outgoings dependant on your % of household income. I do not think you will be able to just pay the £500 in rent. A lot will depend on your partner's income.


Going back to your last post, so you are trying to tell me that you make all your own food and use only your toilet roll, toothpaste and shampoo etc.
When your parents make a pot of tea, they don't make you one. Your mother does not make family meals. you only eat alone with your ready meals.

I am stating a fact I believe £500 plus food is too much to charge a child for living at home. Of course it benefits you as you have less to pay into an IPA, but I still cannot see how it would cost that much.

kepar

From battyboi's post:

Well im still shaking, I had my OR Interview today and well top credit to the guy, he was ok, but it was still awful, I have an IPA to pay into more than I was expecting, and the only thing he objected on was what I was paying in lodge, £375, he wanted me to pay just £175 there was discussion and a little movement but not alot, which is where the IPA came from, still hopefully this is all sorted now and I can start to get on with my life.

I hope you don't get his OR, but I still maintain £500 is too much.

betterlatethannever

I didn't think these boards were better if 'used only by people who are experienced'.
I think everyone whos been BR or has worked for the BR service or even has spent a lot of time on these boards and seen what can happen has 'experience'

and Tommo- Kepar is offering his advice as seen from other posts on these boards- and you did ask for that.

All we (thats ANY of us) can do is second guess and look at whats happened before- then we can pre-warn you of what MAY happen.
Its then upto you to take the correct course of action.

Can you prove the amount you pay your parents? £500 is hardly an easy sum to withdraw so there must be a paper trail that you can show the OR?

battyboimatt

Well I had my OR interview today and he flagged that I had put £375 a month for living at home and he said that was far to much and that he was thinking along the lines of a £200 IPA, ie I can pay my paretns £175 a month and give him £200 a month, in that I did have my own food down as well, so he argued I paid my own food and that he didnt think £375 a month for just living at home with paretns was fair and too high.

tommo2007

betterlatethannever wrote: »

Can you prove the amount you pay your parents? £500 is hardly an easy sum to withdraw so there must be a paper trail that you can show the OR?

Hi mate,

Yes it is paid directly from my account to my parents every Friday (£125) - as you state, there is obviously a paper trail to it