very much on my own

bommer

HI, tonight I felt very much on my own when oh said that because I had made reference to money was tight (coming up to xmAS) i was cause him stress and I didn't know what to do?? anyone felt so alone?

whatatwit

Don't be alone, all of us are here.

Sounds like your OH hasn't had his Lightbulb Moment yet.

D&DD

Hi bommer you're not alone hun you have all of us My OH hasn't even had a dim and distant flicker yet let alone a lightbulb and I'm not the only one on here who's in the same boat...I suppose it does get them down sometimes too but since I started on our debt journey my OH hasn't even asked once how much we owe now I get all the 'but I work so I should be able to treat myself' moans but I have learned to turn a very good deaf'un when need be :rotfl:

Dumyat

its hard when two people have different money values.
we have no debts but our attitude to saving causes us issues! lol

Wizwoo

It's hard but you know it will be worth it in the end - I guess that's what he needs to hear too.

I'm struggling with my OH too at the moment. He's working away from home (we will eventually be moving) so money is being stretched to the max (paying rent and a mortgage). He's lonely and going out regularly when we really can't afford it.

Getting the balance right is difficult - but you'll find the way.
Good luck x

LookingAhead

bommer - how are you feeling today...?

Come back and post....we're here for you.

taxi73

Bommer ..please don't feel alone..we're all here for you!!..partners can often bury their heads in the sand...come on here whenever you want there's always somebody about ...don't be lonely...nobody is here to judge and we all like to help if we can

kazl_2

please dont feel alone. This forum is a great support, just wish I'd started using it sooner. I managed to get my OH to take money problems seriously a few days ago after years of trying hence Lightbulb Moment on 1st December. Its tough always feeling like the bad guy

rog2

Hey Bommer - Most of the people, self included, know and appreciate that money is tight and we are doing our best not to let it get us down - there may not be the luxury items this Christmas, but just wait and see - you'll enjoy it just the same. :xmassign: