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Got to organise my own 30th birthday. Help.
elastigirl
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Why are birthdays so hard and annoying to arrange?
It's my 30th in 2 weeks and my parents want to do something for my birthday but they haven't a clue so mum has just rang me and said look i a telling you straight we haven't sorted anything out so you have to decide and sort it out.
I can understand they don't want the phaff but i didn't expect to organise it all myself. I am tempted to just do nothing it would be easier.
Both my brothers had parties where the venue supplied the food and entertainment and my parents paid for everyone that was invited. But they can't find anything for me. It was easier for them as they were boys so we went to the dogs etc but she doesn't want to do the same.
She doesn't want to hire a hall as she will have to do the food, she doesn't want people at her house and hubby doesn't want them at ours.
I just don't know what to do. Hubby was going to take me away but i don't think mum is happy with that, she wants maybe just a simple meal. Not very thrilling! I don't mean to sound ungrateful but i had really carp 18th and 21st so was hoping for something a bit special.
Even my friends aren't bothered. I asked 3 close friends to a spa day but 2 have said no and the other 1 said yes but nothing has been mentioned again. It was meant to be a fun girly day as a group. Everything is always one sided one of them txt to say no can't come as can't afford it ( fair enough) but if i arrange a meal/ nite out myself then she will come.
Sorry if i am feeling a bit sorry for myself but it's my party and i will cry if i want to :rotfl:
It's my 30th in 2 weeks and my parents want to do something for my birthday but they haven't a clue so mum has just rang me and said look i a telling you straight we haven't sorted anything out so you have to decide and sort it out.
I can understand they don't want the phaff but i didn't expect to organise it all myself. I am tempted to just do nothing it would be easier.
Both my brothers had parties where the venue supplied the food and entertainment and my parents paid for everyone that was invited. But they can't find anything for me. It was easier for them as they were boys so we went to the dogs etc but she doesn't want to do the same.
She doesn't want to hire a hall as she will have to do the food, she doesn't want people at her house and hubby doesn't want them at ours.
I just don't know what to do. Hubby was going to take me away but i don't think mum is happy with that, she wants maybe just a simple meal. Not very thrilling! I don't mean to sound ungrateful but i had really carp 18th and 21st so was hoping for something a bit special.
Even my friends aren't bothered. I asked 3 close friends to a spa day but 2 have said no and the other 1 said yes but nothing has been mentioned again. It was meant to be a fun girly day as a group. Everything is always one sided one of them txt to say no can't come as can't afford it ( fair enough) but if i arrange a meal/ nite out myself then she will come.
Sorry if i am feeling a bit sorry for myself but it's my party and i will cry if i want to :rotfl:
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elastigirl wrote: »Hubby was going to take me away but i don't think mum is happy with that, she wants maybe just a simple meal.
You definitely should go away for your 30th birthday, spoil yourselves with some luxury and ignore other people's wishes - it's your day after all. There are some great internet deals atm, get surfing!
If your Mum can't be bothered I would suggest that you have that simple meal on your return.Value-for-money-for-me-puhleeze!
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It's YOUR birthday, do what you want. If you want to go away with your hubby, then do it! Sod everyone else :-)0
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spend time with the hubby... easy choice! a family dinner sounds good but doesn't have to be on the actual day. i wouldn't want to try to combine a family party with a night out with friends (my parents don't need to see binge drinking - and i know it's bad for me, but we don't all cope with the big 30 as well as each other!).:happyhear0
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Deff,go with your hubby, if your mum still wants to be involved in your birthday then she should organise it/ suggest ideas etc at least.
Its a hassle but is shouldn't be your hassle.
It seems like its all about what other people DON'T want to do. It should be about what you want!
if they want to join you they should organise it especially for a big birthday. If they want to meet you for a meal when you get back from doing things with your hubby then that would be a good middle ground.It only takes a second to say 'Thanks, you just saved me a few quid!'
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From your post I would suggest- go away with your hubby for your birthday - ask him to book it so where you go will be a suprise for you. My hubby has done this for me and it's lovely. (just a uk hotel for the weekend but it was nice not to know where hotel was etc)
Then go for a family meal when you get back and meet your mates for a drink afterwards.
Enjoy
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Oh yes go away with your OH (perhaps it could be at a nice country hotel where OH could treat you to some spa treatments? and you could both enjoy the pool and sauna?). Then perhaps organise a simple family/close friends meal at a favourite restaurant when you get back. Perfect!0
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Definitely do what you want - I'd go away with hubby personally - just did this for our Anniversary using Tesco Vouchers staying at the Hotel we got married in - Kid free weekend - Bliss!0
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Do you have to have a party?0
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"Oh yes go away with your OH (perhaps it could be at a nice country hotel where OH could treat you to some spa treatments? and you could both enjoy the pool and sauna?). Then perhaps organise a simple family/close friends meal at a favourite restaurant when you get back. Perfect! "
Yeah thats what I would do!0
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