Paying for guests accomodation

sharpee

So as we're getting married 300 miles from where my H2B's family live we decided we wanted to pay for everyones overnight accomodation.

This was all fine till we booked the venue without really thinking about the room rates. Which turn out to be £168 per night (£233 for a family room). My step-dad has negotiated a further £12 per room but its still rather costly. For the night of the wedding its going to cost us £1443. I don't have an issue with this.:)

We've decided those who live local don't need to stay the night before as the ceromony isnt till 2pm.

However H2B family and friends will be travelling the night before and won't get there till late. So my thinking is do they need to stay there when all they are going to to is go to sleep or should we put them up somewhere else but cheaper (i.e less than £100 per room).

As it stands it will cost us £800 to put 10 people up overnight:(

I haven't approached this with H2B yet but having gone through all or figures we can't afford this even though its a nice thought.

I am going to have the discussion tonight and gentle put it to him the budget won't stretch (its my parents money and I don't want to ask for more). If he does disagree do you think it would be bad of me to put it to him that he covers the cost as he isn't contributing anything to the wedding?:o

Its a horrible situation:(

sammy_wheeler

wow those rooms are mega expensive! personally i dont think guests should expect for someone to pay the rooms for them- all mine are paying for their own.
£800 is a lot of money for rooms- but also for something that isnt something you should be paying for

could your guests defo not pay for their own?- do they have to stay at your venue- can you look at cheaper options- premier inn, travel lodge etc

the guests certainly dont have to stay in the venue the night before- this should be a travel lodge etc- at the end of the day its a lot of money- and although u are trying to do a nice thing by paying for everyone- i feel its unnecessary

when is the wedding- do the guests have time to save up?

sharpee

Hi Wedding is next February so plenty time. The normal room rates start at £198!!!

I think I will put on the save the date cards that B&B is provided for the night of the wedding and an additional note explaining we have negotiated a special rate at the venue for those wanting to stay the night before.

I will at least pay for the MIL2B as she doesn;t have a lot of money.

I just feel guilty they are travelling so far at our expense:(

becca0417

We are going to a wedding where accomodation is provided on the night of the wedding night but we had to find our own the night before. I have no problem with this at all. It's our choice to travel down the night before. We are staying in holiday inn. I think the wording on the Save teh dates is a brilliant idea.

LEJC

I really dont think you need worry too much...guests will find their own accomodation if they want to stay over...if I were you include details of local hotels with the save the dates travelodge,Holiday inn,premier inn etc and people will have lots of time to book if they want...travelodge may not be the most glamourous place to stay..but its functional and their rooms start at £9 when booked in advance..its just a base really as they will spend the day at the wedding!
You could always check laterooms to see if the hotel offer discounts there but those cant be booked until a lot nearer the time.
Ive been to loads of weddings over the years and i've always paid accomodation costs if I felt it was too much of a treck on the day of the wedding....even when we married we had a few out of towners...all sorted their own accomodation I never even tought of offering!

ellay864

We're not paying any of our guests accommodation and most of them are travelling and stopping the night before and the night itself. They're all in the local travelodge. What we are doing as the day and evening venues are an hours drive away is laying on a coach but that's costing us under £300, so a much more palatable option than paying for everyone's accommodation

Magicboo

I think it's very kind of you to pay for the night of the wedding and I don't think asking people to arrange their own accomodation the night before is at all unreasonable.
They don't have to stay in your chosen hotel, so it's up to them how much they spend, or if they decide to come down on the day, which is another option (if alot of driving & partying in one day!) for them.
I don't think you need to ask your other half to stump up the costs-and risk upsetting him by pointing out his lack of financial investment into the day..
x

floss2

We paid for the wedding party's accommodation, but all other guests made their own arrangements & paid for their own, including elderly relatives from London & DH's friends from Scotland.

How many are you considering in your £1400? We had 8 + DH the night before and 10 the night of the wedding (DH's parents, best man & wife, my 2 sons & g/f's the night before then the same again plus my bridesmaid & her husband) and our honeymoon suite was free.

sharpee

Ok so have had a chat with H2B about this and he agrees it is silly. Although he's told everyone not to worry about it and we're paying for everything (no wonder he has no money!) :eek:

So we're going to pay for the accomodation on the Wedding night for all (19 in total).

Phew now onto the next problem - finding a photographer!

mm123

I paid for my mum, my dad and his wife room as they gave us money towards the wedding. all others paid for there own at a cost of 100 pounds but the wedding was about 20 minutes away so it was their choice