Interview tomorrow - very stressed - not sure if can see it through!

tankgirl1

Hi

I have an interview tomorrow and I am getting myself in a right mess!
Its for a change of career, and would require hours which I am not sure I could cover unless I found a very flexible childminder.

To be honest I'm wondering if I bit of more than I can chew when applying, and I'm now getting so stressed about the interview, that I'm wondering if it would be best to call them first thing and respectfully decline.

I suffer from depression which has been playing up lately, and one of the reasons is the stress caused by trying (and failing) to sort childcare for my last job.

I'm worried about how it would look if I declined to turn up, but am also worried that if it got any further I would get in a pickle with childcare again, leading to more stress, and therefore depression

Is it better to be honest now, albeit at this late stage (interview was arranged 2 wks ago), to save wasting their time in considering me?

The thought of the actual interview is scaring me - it will be before an interview panal, and I have to bring all sorts of documents with me - I've felt sick and head achey all day worrying about it!

I don't know what to do for the best - help please!

niklepic

Now first of all breathe! Think back to what made you think about applying for the job. Is it an area you're really interested in? Is it something you've always wanted to do? Is it a proper life changer (but in a good way)?

You could always go for the interview and if you are offered it think about the practicalities then - you can always turn it down if it turns out you can't work your childcare around it and you've lost nothing by trying x

Sambucus_Nigra

And.....what if you DID find a flexible childminder? But had already jacked the interview in?

Just relax; the worst that can happen is that you don't get it. So breathe, and think of it as a test of your interview technique rather than an interview per se. You never know.....

Claytone

You in your comfort zone >>> Pain >>>> A fulfilling life. You've got to move through the pain to get to the other side. The interview is the pain.

Coeus

Have a few Whiskey's before you go in - Dutch courage my girl

santacruz_2

It's always best to just go for interviews, even if its to build confidence for the next one. You're also unsure whether you want the job, so really there's no pressure! If you get an offer..great. If not then you've got more interview experience under your belt.

I always pretend I'm someone else in an interview...like a famous person who IS confident. Carol Vorders? Or think about David Brent
whilst in there. Things like that make me smile and calm me down when I'm in an interview.

shamrock77

goodluck :beer:

Yeah i agree with others just go for it & think along the lines of "you have nothing to lose"

-BA-

Never ever back out once you have committed or you will be left with a bucket load of regret. Use the situation you find youself in to actually try and calm yourself. You are on the verge of jacking it in which means that you must already have come to terms with the fact you might not be successful. So what you can do now is go in relaxed with the attitude (although remember to stay professional throughout) of, "if I get it great, if I don't at least I have tried".

Don't forget, there is nothing in the rule book to say that you have to take the job if you are offered it. There are plenty of get out clauses such as, "I had done all my research and got everything in place, however the childminder I had lined up for to cover the extra hours has let me down at the last minute." Even if this happens to be a fact, if you are the right person for the job, the employer might do whatever they can to rejig the role to try and accommodate.

First step is to have faith in yourself if you want others to do likewise.

tankgirl1

Thank you everyone for the replies and advice.

In the end I did go, it was stressful and nerve wracking but not as bad as I had made it out to be in my head!

Didn't get the job though

-BA-

tankgirl1 wrote: »

Thank you everyone for the replies and advice.

In the end I did go, it was stressful and nerve wracking but not as bad as I had made it out to be in my head!

Didn't get the job though

All very good experience and I am sure it helped to bolster your confidence somewhat.

PotatoPotato

tankgirl1 wrote: »

Thank you everyone for the replies and advice.

In the end I did go, it was stressful and nerve wracking but not as bad as I had made it out to be in my head!

Didn't get the job though

I'm glad you went!
+1 for everyone's advice, great community :T