so why do we feel guility?

Rebecca01

Well I have just received my new payment schedule, after the CSA have finally sorted out my overpayments, from 2008.

It took a tribunal which we attended twice to finally sort it all out. The CSA ignoring the decision notice ( the judge said he should hold them in contempt, no wonder they have a bad reputation)However after alot of stress, struggling to pay our own bills, mp letters etc. Its finally sorted. We have been waiting for this day for nearly 3 years.

The thing is, things are now good with the pwc, and we are now friends. I think this will stop that when she recieves the payment schedule and she sees her payments have gone down 60%.

I tried to ask the CSA, since it was their fault to pay me back, so I can pay my debt off they caused, and to take the money back off her more slowly. They refused.

If it had been sorted in the first place in 2008, this wouldnt have happened. Yet another CSA fail on both parts.

However we dont feel so guility we would pay her the money back lol, maybe buy the kids more stuff though.

I hope our CSA nightmare is over, but who knows they are a law unto themselves.

Lessons learnt, it is worth appealing as the CSA can get things very wrong and be unfair. Its a long road and can become a 'hobby' as some people have described on here.

Thanks for reading.

DUTR

Glad it's all sorted, and hope some of the new comers realise, things won't be sorted in an instance or in the very near future , whichever side of the fence they sit

mrsspendalot

Really pleased you got it sorted. Don't feel guilty, they made a mistake and now it has been rectified. Hopefully the PWC will realise that it is not you reducing payments, but the CSA sorting out their mistake. If you have been overpaying, then the PWC has had the benefit of the money, just earlier than would otherwise have been.

RedSky

If you have a good relationship with the PWC and both agree that a different payment schedule would be fairer, try a private agreement.

DUTR

RedSky wrote: »

If you have a good relationship with the PWC and both agree that a different payment schedule would be fairer, try a private agreement.

It does not seem they do, if it ended up dragging through courts and appeals for years , or even had to go their sperate ways

FBaby

If you are on good terms, have you discussed with her? The hardest part for anyone, pwc or nrp is when you get a sudden reduction in your income and you have to make serious adjustments. That's when the stress can bring on bitterness. You are not in the wrong at all, so she shouldn't be angry with you, but the consequences of the CSA mistake might have a serious impact on her and your child. If you show willingness to help, let's say you ask her what you could buy for your child to help etc..., it might be easier for her to accept the situation and for you to remain in good terms? Remember that being in good terms is the most important factor for your child. Most would give their toys away to be able to see their mum and dad getting along, together or not.

Rebecca01

Thanks everyone for your replies.

I dont think we quite trust her for a private agreement just yet, maybe if things go well for a year.

She isnt short of money , she is quite well off for someone that doesnt work a paid job. However she doesnt waste money and is quite money orientated. So losing half her payment will not make her happy.

We will suggest buying things for the children though and say we did try to get payments spread out a bit more. She has just had another baby, so is very happy. Hopefully so much so, that she may not even mention it to us when she gets the schedule.
We will see.