turn the tribunal back on her?

creampuff

sorry for upsetting a few people on here.. it was not my intention

i'm just so anoyed that the PWC will go to extream lengths to claim the children are impoverished and lie to the CSA about our lifestyle that she knows nothing about..

I beleive that if she wishes to go down this route and see all our financila details then its only fair that her household details are also disclosed - it would be a very different story to being impoverished.


what is also very annoying, is that i also have no control over the fact that she shares all this with the children and also tells lies about us to them for example, your dad doesn't love you and is stealing money from you, and that he will be going to prison because she will win the CSA case! how horrible is that. the children get very upset and have even expressed an interest in living with us but won't because of how she will react.

If anyone has any advice on how i can protect the children from this behaviour, please advise as it worries me sick for their welbeing..x

mrsspendalot

creampuff wrote: »

what is also very annoying, is that i also have no control over the fact that she shares all this with the children and also tells lies about us to them for example, your dad doesn't love you and is stealing money from you, and that he will be going to prison because she will win the CSA case! how horrible is that. the children get very upset and have even expressed an interest in living with us but won't because of how she will react.

If anyone has any advice on how i can protect the children from this behaviour, please advise as it worries me sick for their welbeing..x

Now that is absolutely disgusting! I cannot understand why PWCs do this to their children as a way of 'getting back' at the NRPs. :mad:

I'm not sure I have any advice on how to handle it, other than to put their minds at rest if they ask questions, but in a way that doesn't sink to the PWC level by bad-mouthing the other parent.

creampuff

discusting isn't it.
it's so sad, and all this has started when i came on the scene 7 years ago.. (NRPP)

my husband does his best to ignore her and we try to reassure the children it will be ok. We don't bad mouth her, but do correct what the children say to us if its wrong.

We try to be involved in the school etc, but he also puts a stop on that and makes it as difficult as she possibly can but we are working on this..

I just wish she could have a taste of her own medicine from her wrong doing.

mrsspendalot

creampuff wrote: »

discusting isn't it.
it's so sad, and all this has started when i came on the scene 7 years ago.. (NRPP)

my husband does his best to ignore her and we try to reassure the children it will be ok. We don't bad mouth her, but do correct what the children say to us if its wrong.

We try to be involved in the school etc, but he also puts a stop on that and makes it as difficult as she possibly can but we are working on this..

I just wish she could have a taste of her own medicine from her wrong doing.

If it's any consolation, my DH has had the same kind of issues since he moved in with me also from his PWC. I live away from where he used to live, so he had to move to be with me, and I don't think she has ever forgiven him, even though within this time she has got with someone else and within 3 months, got pregnant, so she has moved on. To make it worse, his parents have seemingly cut him off too. I feel as the NRPP like I'm carrying the blame for them no longer being together, even though they were divorced before we got together.

She will get a taste of her own medicine eventually, these things have a habit of coming back on those who deserve it