Ex Partner causing me Grief, please help!!! ( Loan )

dianemc_2

Hello there,

My ex partner took out a loan in his name about 3 years ago, most of it was for his new car, to pay off an existing car, and to consolidate a few bills we both had etc household bills. So its in his name, and hes been making the payments himself since it started/also making them now

We split up a year ago, we have 2 kids together which both live with me, he has to pay maintenence through the CSA, currently he thinks hes paying too much but its only what the CSA say he has to pay, i did have an arrangement with him for a less amount but him and his new partner decided to cancel it without notice, and try change the claim as his partner had 3 kids of his own hoping he would have to pay less. During this he split with her and ended up having to pay even more, he suddenly wants to go back to the agreement which i refused based on his actions, the kids are lucky if he sees them once every 2-3 weeks and even then its for a few hours, he would rather watch football. Anyway back to my problem.

He is saying he has seen a solicitor since i wont adhere to his demands with the CSA, and that apparently im liable to pay half the loan that was taken out even tho he took out the Bank loan in his name, i never co signed it or had anything to do with it, he paid off his car loan, bought a new car, and spent a small sum on consolidating a few of our bills.

so basically unless i bow to his demands he is saying hes going to take me to court to pay for half his loan, even tho i dont drive or have never driven, so the car is nothing to do with me, not in my name, nothing.

so am i liable and does he have a case, or is he making it up to scare me into making his much lower Child Support payments.


any advice or help would be appreciated as im worrying over it.

jonesMUFCforever

He has no hope whatsover of making you pay half his loan so stop worrying.

dianemc_2

jonesMUFCforever wrote: »

He has no hope whatsover of making you pay half his loan so stop worrying.

thanks, im not good with this kind of stuff, not to mention my hormones are all over the place ( pregnant with my new partner ), hes really bitter.

so there is no come back on me at all, because its all in his name?

sorry to go on like an old woman haha

Valli

dianemc wrote: »

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so there is no come back on me at all, because its all in his name?

Not UNLESS you were MARRIED

dianemc_2

Valli wrote: »

Not UNLESS you were MARRIED

nope, rented a house together aswell, so nothing of mine was secured on it either, sorry to trouble you by the way, as i said, was just unsure of his threats.

Valli

No problem

I love it when you can tell someone who's threatening you they can go and take a running jump because actually they are powerless and it's all bluster.

So when he says he is going to take you to court tell him to do exactly that. Then he will go pay for a solicitor who will tell him he hasn't a hope in hell.

dianemc_2

Valli wrote: »

No problem

I love it when you can tell someone who's threatening you they can go and take a running jump because actually they are powerless and it's all bluster.

So when he says he is going to take you to court tell him to do exactly that. Then he will go pay for a solicitor who will tell him he hasn't a hope in hell.

i think im going to appreciate the look on his face tomorrow when he picks one of his kids up, and explain to him that i will look forward to hearing from his solicitor, and if he brings the kids into it, ill get sole custody of them so he can see them when the court arranges it, not when he feels like it etc when liverpool fc are playing.

thank you very much for your help!!!

eschaton

dianemc wrote: »

and if he brings the kids into it, ill get sole custody of them so he can see them when the court arranges it,

Pathetic ! I was on your side until I read that.

dianemc_2

eschaton wrote: »

Pathetic ! I was on your side until I read that.

thats your opinion, but sometimes when the welfare and mental health of your kids is up for stake you dont have a choice. Men haven't got the right to act how they like. See your son, or watch liverpool fc on the tv?.....bet yould pick football over your children wouldn't you

but never mind, i came here for advice on the loan, not child welfare

Fiddlestick

dianemc wrote: »

Men haven't got the right to act how they like.

Neither have women.

That's pretty disgusting if you plan to use your children as pawns to settle your financial affairs.

sp1987

I typed quite a long reply then read the part about witholding contact and using your children as pawns and thought my sympathies were entirely misplaced. It certainly won't be you or him who misses out if your fued continues.

Suffice to say you won't be liable for his loans.

Sadly it seems you and him are both full of hot air threatening legal action neither of you know anything about. I'll expect his thread on 'can my ex partner stop me seeing my kids because I lied about a loan liability' to appear imminently. Don't worry he would get the same half hearted, tremendously disappointed-in-humanity reply.

Maybe you should just request all legal communications be sent to oneanother direct, so you do not have to both make up nutty stories about why you are not ever going to sue each other through imaginary solicitors?