Yet another Cap Quest plea for advice

Corn_Dweller

This is all really depressing. God knows how people deal with this if they don't have the money to pay!

bargainbetty

I'm sorry, but your niece needs to take responsibility for this. Why is she, who fraudulently opened the accounts and took the goods, not being asked to pay for it? If she refuses to make good on the debts she has run up in your name, I would report her to the police. She is not just committing fraud, she is now deliberately withholding the money owed in the knowledge that it is detrimental to your wife.

Personally, I would be unlikely to accept that she has learned a lesson (she did this several times, I note) until she has had a lesson to learn. Talking to her through her mum is hardly keeping the pressure up. Then again, I am mean to people who abuse my trust. I would turn up at her home, ask what she got with the accounts and take all of it. It's yours - you paid for it. She stole it from you.

Additionally, are you absolutely sure this is all of it? I'd also want to check her house for other catalogues!

Corn_Dweller

bargainbetty wrote: »

I'm sorry, but your niece needs to take responsibility for this. Why is she, who fraudulently opened the accounts and took the goods, not being asked to pay for it? If she refuses to make good on the debts she has run up in your name, I would report her to the police. She is not just committing fraud, she is now deliberately withholding the money owed in the knowledge that it is detrimental to your wife.

Personally, I would be unlikely to accept that she has learned a lesson (she did this several times, I note) until she has had a lesson to learn. Talking to her through her mum is hardly keeping the pressure up. Then again, I am mean to people who abuse my trust. I would turn up at her home, ask what she got with the accounts and take all of it. It's yours - you paid for it. She stole it from you.

I totally agree with all of the above. The problem is that i really don't want to fall out with my wife over it. I think that getting the Police involved would be one of her worst nightmares. She is so upset and stressed out by all this that i don't want to add to her misery by going against her wishes.

bargainbetty wrote: »

Additionally, are you absolutely sure this is all of it? I'd also want to check her house for other catalogues!

No. I don't think for a minute that this is everything. I have made it perfectly clear that if it happens again i will go straight to the Police, because as you said, i don't believe she has learned anything from this. She has got away scot free.

The sad thing is, she has not even contacted us to apologise.