Oh goodness I've messed up...advice please!

moonbeam2007

climbgirl wrote: »

Not intended to be high and mighty at all - I'm genuinely surprised that a person can be working a job and not have a handle on how much money they earn from it. Which in turn leads to a situation where they're behind on the rent and potentially jeopardising the roof over their kids' head.

I'm quite sincere in hoping that the OP can sort this out and turn it around - she's been on here six months before in a similar situation and there's very good advice in both threads.

Advice is what she wanted, not to be told what she already knows. She admitted she made mistake, hence the title of the thread.
It's very OTT and rude the way her post has been replied to regarding her children, sex life and work. She seems to me she's doing her best in a difficult situation and as a single Mum has had to make some tough choices to which haven't always gone right. This makes her human but yet some people just can't help kicking the girl when she's already down. Disgraceful.

SingleSue

moonbeam2007 wrote: »

My son also has speech and language therapy, although he is just speech delayed due to some ill health early on.

However my sisters son has Autism and she was told when he was 3. He's now 6 and I can say first hand how difficult it can be. Your very right in saying a routine is very important, more so than children without it.

I wish you well, you have a lot to deal with and sounds to me like you have your head screwed on. Granted made some mistakes but haven't we all and no your children are not mistakes and no decent Mother would suggest that your just at a bad spot which will get better.

Ignore the people who are just on here to dish out their 'so called' advice when their just sat tapping on their computers out to stick their nose into other people's life's and not giving a dame about helping someone out at a difficult time.

Whilst I agree that routine is important to a person with autism, it is also important to introduce change to them and help them to cope with change.

I say this as a parent of two children with autism (middle son aspergers, youngest son complex autism), to have a child who has had everything controlled for them, whilst it has led to them being comfortable (plus easier for the carer), it can lead to more problems the older they get. We can't control a change in routine in normal life and it is a must that these children are taught how to deal with it....preparation for change can help here (we had to start preparing youngest for his change in school a year in advance), if a change occurs which is out of your and their control and preparation has not been able to be done, stress relieving/calming techniques come into play to help them deal with the fall out.

Doing this will help them when they come to adulthood, will help them lead more independent lives (although quite possibly not completely independent) and be able to cope more with the stresses of life...something they already find quite difficult.

Caroline73_2

alasia wrote: »

I forgot to answer this post specifically;



* Maternity Allowance
* Tax Credits (I'm still paying voluntary NI contributions remember, so technically I'm entitled to this)
* I will also still do some tarot line work in the evenings a couple of times per week, as well as any one-off work I can do with the baby, such as mystery shopping etc.

And as for my son...do you have a child with suspected autism spectrum disorder? Not making excuses but they don't just 'forget' things, they HAVE to have routine and messes them up royally when something big like that changes.

Are you allowed to earn from the tarot line if claiming maternity allowance at the same time?

tyllwyd

Caroline73 wrote: »

Are you allowed to earn from the tarot line if claiming maternity allowance at the same time?

Looks as if you can do a few days work, but not much
http://www.dwp.gov.uk/publications/specialist-guides/technical-guidance/ni17a-a-guide-to-maternity/maternity-allowance-ma/changes-you-must-tell-us-about/

shop-to-drop

Make it a priority to try to make good with the landlord. Pay off the arrears as soon as you can and make sure all other payments are on time. Write to the landlord apologising and promise to get the LHA paid directly to him. You may be lucky enough to be able to stay put then.

Also agree make CSA claim and don't let the ex 'near you' again.

Good Luck

evoke

£100 in 3 hours from a tarot line. Hmm...

I'm in the wrong job.

moonbeam2007

evoke wrote: »

£100 in 3 hours from a tarot line. Hmm...

I'm in the wrong job.

Change jobs then