Would you invite, or not? I don't know what to do?!

laura2481

I had intended to invite my boss to the evening do of our wedding, along with everybody else from work (we are a fairly small company) but I changed my mind due to a number of factors (one being that most other people don't want him there). It is now approaching the wedding, and I have given out the invites at work and while I did not do it in front of him in a 'rub your nose in it' sort of way he did ask me today what day we are getting married. And I'm feeling bad. Because he was very nice when I got engaged. He was, I think, the first person I told as I was working that day...

Hmm, so don't know what to do for the best.

On one hand- people at work don't really want him there

On the other- I don't want to be rude, or mean.

What would you do?

clearing_out_my_pockets

You say you changed your mind for a number of reasons. One of the reasons was other people don't want him there. Out of interest, what were the others?

minerva_windsong

Why don't people want him there? Is it because they feel they won't be able to let their hair down, have a drink etc? As that's the only reason why I can see people not wanting him, but then surely you'd treat it like an office Christmas party - by all means have a drink or two but don't get trashed.

Personally I think if you like your boss and want him at the wedding, then you should invite him. Maybe sit him on another table (ideally with chatty people) if you'd rather not have him sit with your workmates?

Morganarla

My opinion is that it is your wedding, you invite who the hell you want. And you instruct others to behave themselves as it is your day and all about you and hubby-to-be, NOT them and whether they like your other guests or not.

I had this problem when planning my wedding to exDH. There were so many people saying oh you can't invite so and so, we don't like them, oh and remember so and so used to work with so and so and there'd be trouble... F*ck that! If you're invited to my wedding, you don't dictate to me who else I invite and you bloody behave yourself and put a smile on your face while you're there. End of.

Sorry, I get quite angry over who gets invited where and the flippin' politics about it!

shellsuit

If you want to invite him, do it! Take no notice of what anyone else has to say about it (apart from your H2B of course!) as it's none of their business.

Bluespirit

Do you want your boss there? If you do, invite him. If you don't, don't invite him. Its your wedding and it should be you and your OH who decide the guests - not work colleagues. You invite who you want, and if they have a problem with it that's for them to deal with.

LEJC

The guest list should be determined by you and your H2B not your work mates....and the purpose of the evening is to CELEBRATE YOUR MARRIAGE not for them to dictate who should be at the reception or indeed turn the evening into an extended session of back chat about someone who cant even defend themselves

when we married we invited lots of work mates and some higher mamagement ...some came some didn't but at least they were issued an invitation and it was their choice....

It is your reception and if you want to invite your boss thats your decision....if you have a valid reason why YOU dont want him there thats fine ....but to not invite him because your workmates wont want him there is not the right reason to not invite him!

Bride2be24

Its up to you and your OH who you invite, its your wedding no-one elses. We personally aint inviting our boss (we both work together) because he is a total tw*t lol & we cant stand him but that choice was made by myself and my partner nobody else. If you want to invite him then go for it. x

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

If you want your boss there invite him.
Doesnt matter what the others think, on the day sit him on a different tabel if your that worried x

RainbowDrops

I've read through everyone's replies, so there's no point in repeating them.
Just don't feel guilt tripped into inviting or not inviting people.

Fawny_2

I agree with what's been said, it's your decsion not theirs.