Is it safe to pay direct?

AnxiousMum

shell_542 wrote: »

Could the PWC not claim that their signature was forged?

A witness, or a notary would take care of that.

OP - what about a direct deposit into your wife's account - but under REFERENCE marking it as Child support for child X and the date it is covering. That takes care of it quite simply, and means that you can get on with supporting your children. It doesn't have to be difficult - but the above would ensure that the payments are clearly marked for child support.

HelpMePay

That might be an option as well. I'm hoping we can sort things out so that the ambiguity is removed.

speedster

she'll have to get fed up with getting £0 before this moves forward.

as long as you stick to your guns and point blank refuse to deal with her till the case is closed, then you'll be fine.

i had all this while my stoooopid ex was stuck on a fiver a week and i had false arrears.

i had a standard text saved as a template that i used when she was pestering for money. it read something like "i have told you on numerous occasions that i am not prepared to deal with you AND the CSA."

mind you, it did take her 3 years of a fiver a week for her to realise the CSA wasn't the answer.

and before the hens start, i was quite prepared to be amicable and sort it out but she dug her heels in and tried to use the CSA "to destroy me" (her exact words) so EXACTLY who was making our child go without????

AnxiousMum

speedster wrote: »

so EXACTLY who was making our child go without????

at the end of the day.....the one who was not contributing on a fair basis to the child's needs!

DX2

speedster wrote: »

so EXACTLY who was making our child go without????

Both of the parents, because you were stubborn mules.

tattycath

AnxiousMum wrote: »

at the end of the day.....the one who was not contributing on a fair basis to the child's needs!

And as speedster said-the pwc was hellbent on destroying him-if she had not been a biatch and if she had put the needs of the child first instead of grinding her axe, she would have received maintenance-end of.

AnxiousMum

Actually, I think DX2 said it best..........

HelpMePay

As the saying goes, there are always 3 sides to every story

speedster

AnxiousMum wrote: »

at the end of the day.....the one who was not contributing on a fair basis to the child's needs!

yup. just the blinkered pro pwc response you would expect on here. the mere fact that she refused to come to a better deal in itself is proof enough she wasn't acting in our childs best interests.

but i wouldn't expect the wimmin on here to comprehend that fact.....

speedster

DX2 wrote: »

Both of the parents, because you were stubborn mules.

one of the parents............

i have ALWAYS put money away for daughter in her savings separate form anything else.

i do it for my youngest 2 as well, all the child allowance goes into a savings account for them. we haven't touched a bean of it in 5 and 3 years respectively.