Being taken to court by a friend for money i do not owe her

Ihatecameron

The thing is i don't have any money - just setting up a business at the moment

I am not having a go but it looks to me like you are making excuses, when people help you out it is only polite to return the favour.

stressedout79

stressedout79 wrote: »

I was happy to have an adult conversation about it to see how much she wanted, when, etc just to see if there would be anything i could do because she had helped me in the past - if i can help someone i will - but i was just sworn at and told to get it all in cash asap and also told to never contact her again - i'm not a horrible person and tried to sort it out amicably without rising to her nastiness but the calmer i was the nastier she got - but that could have been the alcohol i guess.

I'm not making excuses - is it fair for me to be bullied and threatened into giving her money - I don't owe her any money - I didn't ask her for the money in the first place - I tried to speak to her fairly and calmly like an adult and all i got was abuse ... If i needed a new sofa and knocked on my ex's door from 4 years ago and told him he kept my old sofa so now i need a new one he should pay for it - i doubt i would get very far. Just because someone's helped someone out in the past doesn't give them the right to be threatened into handing over money years later.

jonjamie1970

Looks like its a moral and ethical decision you have to make really.

Tixy

I wouldn't pay her anything back. You didn't borrow the money from her - she gave it to you, it sounds like it was a gift and that was obviously your interpretation at the time.

If she was still a friend then I could see you might feel that you would want to come to an agreement but she isn't. And on top of that she is clearly a right b***h.

Unlikely she will try to take you to court, if she does she won't win.

I wouldn't enter into any discussions with her. And I wouldn't respond to anything at all by text or facebook etc - not even 'the money was a gift' or anything. I wouldn't write down anything that even mentions any cash ever passed between you.

Bloomin_Freezing2

Tough one this, i have many a time paid for friends to come out, I never expected to be repaid. But like someone else said, i thik it would be the decent thing to pay her back for the bills she paid on your behalf. OK, so you say she told you not to worry about it, but I think you should. If you are starting up your own business you must have some money or you wouldn't be able to do it. Even if it is 4 years ago, she helped you out when you needed it.

stressedout79

I should have been clearer - i'm not setting up my own business i'm working with someone who is setting up their own business so i don't get paid until the business starts making money.

It's not my business and I have no money or have had any money to invest in it.

[Deleted User]

you dont owe her a penny she didnt"lend" you anything she "gave"you money when it suited her,just ignore her empty drink fueled threats and hopefully she`ll go away,if she doesnt play her at her own game and threaten legal action

StrongWork

Tell her to go and do one.

And when she's finished, tell her to go and do one again.

(Incidentally, if you had to estimate, how much money do you think she had given you over that period?)

sp1987

Don't even engage with her about supposed 'owed' money.

If she is trying to get you to admit to a debt, she will be hoping you acknowledge getting the money and acknowledge agreeing to give her it back.

I don't comment on whether it is morally right to return the favour, we haven't heard any details from her.

She would have to pay to take the claim to court. Unless she has money up front to do so, that is a non starter anyway.

Post back if you get any claim forms/letters before action. Until then, ignore her. I doubt you'll get anything more than some facebook messages. Block her.

chuckley

block them on FB and forget about them. Don't engage in any communication with this person.