alcoholic needs help

alcoholic

gonna think about what u all have said and thankyou.think i will start a diary tomorrow and see how it goes.as it stands , beer in wits out. so thanks but off to get drunk and forget my worries

alcoholic

gonna start a diary on here tomorrow and see how it goes.
thankyou all for your support till now xxxx
alcoholic

Superbiatch

Good luck hun, the answer as you well know doesn't lie at the bottom of a bottle. The problem still exists when the hangover is gone. It will take a lot of strength, but don't do it on your own. Your other half can't be completely oblivious to your drinking and probably has a good idea anyway, time to be honest to yourself and her

Marru

The longer you are not taking control of your situation the worse it gets. I had a period when I wasn't opening my post and if I had I wouldn't have been in quite as big mess as I was. Just keep taking steps forward even if just baby ones.

SimIsOnTheUp

alcoholic wrote: »

gonna think about what u all have said and thankyou.think i will start a diary tomorrow and see how it goes.as it stands , beer in wits out. so thanks but off to get drunk and forget my worries

How about doing the opposite to what your mind is telling you to do (probably, as in my case, due to years of conditioning and hard wiring going on upstairs) and instead call AA?

0845 769 7555

They're going to be a complete stranger, and you'll never meet them, but they will be an alcoholic too.

You can tell them anything. Even just to offload.

The trouble with booze is that of it's cyclical nature -

Feel low / stressed / can't cope = have a drink = ahh much better for a few hours = until a few hours later = feel low again = few more drinks = feel flat / knackered = collapse into bed = wake up feeling depressed as hell / shaky as hell (even more low and stressed than before you had a drink) = then feel like another drink to cope.. all the while not dealing with the crux of one's stress.

You know?

Only you can break this cycle.

As my Doc said to me -

"Do you want the good news or the bad news?"

"The good news, is that the future is in your hands, and the bad news is that the future is in your hands."

Go steady,

Sim

eyeopener2

Hiya

I know where your coming from. Drink and debt were nearly my complete undoing. I drank, didn't have money so borrowed, drank, borrowed.

All the debt was hidden from my OH but the drinking wasn't.

You have to want to stop drinking and sometimes it does take hitting rock bottom. Maybe your about to reach it, cos if the baliffs turn up and your OH knows nothing of the debts then things will certainly hit the fan.

I didn't have baliffs but the bank declined my OH card (joint account) and she assumed, until that point that we were OK money wise.

I had already quit drinking (13 months sober now) before the debt situation came to light and that certainly helps you address your problems properley. You can plan, you don't spend money on beer, wine, lager or spirits so you can start paying your dues. Not just to the bank etc but mainly to your OH who is probably desperatley worried about you but is about to find out what it is you have been hiding. Those worries will turn into anger but that is something that will subside.

The debts can be sorted out. Your OH will forgive you in time.

That seems like a couple of good reasons to quit drinking tonight doesn't it?

Go to see your Doctor, don't go cold turkey its very dangerous and then maybe try AA.

Do something, anything, but do it because you want to.

And do it tonight.

glittermonster

Hi - how are you doing today?

climbgirl

wattapain wrote: »

Hi - I agree with Rosy - you really do need to see your Gp - they will be only too glad to help you - they can sort out counselling etc.
Also, how about AA - usually great, impartial advice.
Samaritans too can help.

I know this advice was well-intentioned, but a lot of GPs don't know how to deal with alcoholics. My ex went to several to get help and the only thing he was offered was prozac. Not exactly dealing with the issue...a couple even refused to talk openly with him about it.

Samaritans will listen to you which is good if you need to off load but they won't offer any practical help or advice.

The best places we found for both help and support were the AA and Drinkline. Both gave very practical advice and non-judgemental support. I'd recommend you call them if you feel you can.

Don't despair, there is a way through this. Wanting to change and accepting you need help is the first step - and sometimes the hardest one.

winebox

Hi - somewhere in the forums - sorry, I don't know how to post links - is a thread called "the giving up & cutting down alcohol support thread numero 9" - it's on number 9 because it's been going for such a long time & has given invaluable advice & support to lots of people.....contributors include non-drinking alcoholics & people with all levels of drink problems. Including myself (& one or two of the names in this thread) - see if you can track it down (or can someone cleverer than me post the link?!)

Good luck.

ToffeeApple123

winebox wrote: »

Hi - somewhere in the forums - sorry, I don't know how to post links - is a thread called "the giving up & cutting down alcohol support thread numero 9" - it's on number 9 because it's been going for such a long time & has given invaluable advice & support to lots of people.....contributors include non-drinking alcoholics & people with all levels of drink problems. Including myself (& one or two of the names in this thread) - see if you can track it down (or can someone cleverer than me post the link?!)

Good luck.

I agree - you get good GPs and not so good GPs and the same goes for all professions I suppose.

I suffer with severe depression (caused in part by debt problems) and there are some days I just can't move and the world seems to shut down around you.

I was using a lot of cannabis to block it out and the Samaritans were brilliant as someone non-judgemental to talk to. I called them first when I knew that if I didn't talk to someone that that would be it and they were fantastic.

Nothing is solved overnight and these problems never go away but you learn how to manage them and understand why certain behaviours happen. I hope you find the right solution for you