Can the CSA touch my ex's savings.......

DUTR

happycamper3 wrote: »

DUTR wrote: »

I know money doesn't buy love, actually I was the one who was financially secure pre marriage/pre children.
We spilt because he couldnt' cope with marriage/children etc, but I shouldn't have to defend myself to you.

As I say he is the children's father and he should be made to pay, as if he was working he would.

If you are financially secure then why hound him for money that you are not entitled to?
You are not defending yourself to me, whether you get a portion or not, it does not affect my day.
The children are not a punishment or a meal ticket, so paying is different from contributing, it seems the emotional bond between his children and himself has diminshed (so much for absence makes the heart grow fonder) , did they send him a birthday or cristmas card?
Are you going to raise your boy(s) that they are only of use if they can put money on the table for their partner, are you going to raise the girl(s) to only go for a guy that puts money on the table?
Because you must know that is so WRONG :eek:

tts42010

Er because BOTH parents are financially responsible for THEIR child's upbringing.

tts42010

Who cares if the children didn't send him a card, they are all under 10 surely He should be the one to send his little one's birthday cards etc?

OP your ex sounds like an !!!! from what you have desribed, If he doesn't even care enough to send them a birthday card, you and your chlildren are probably better off without.

DX2

tts42010 wrote: »

Er because BOTH parents are financially responsible for THEIR child's upbringing.

Legally the NRP in this case is paying what the laws says he should pay. £5.00

DUTR

tts42010 wrote: »

Er because BOTH parents are financially responsible for THEIR child's upbringing.

tts42010 wrote: »

Who cares if the children didn't send him a card, they are all under 10 surely He should be the one to send his little one's birthday cards etc?

OP your ex sounds like an !!!! from what you have desribed, If he doesn't even care enough to send them a birthday card, you and your chlildren are probably better off without.

Both parents are contributing though, they should be sending cards, long term it is they who are going to feel it from not having contact, we have seen posts from adults who were once in that situation.

tts42010

DX2 wrote: »

Legally the NRP in this case is paying what the laws says he should pay. £5.00

Ah didn't see that bit, thanks.

OP how do you make £5 strech so far?

tts42010

DUTR wrote: »

Both parents are contributing though, they should be sending cards, long term it is they who are going to feel it from not having contact, we have seen posts from adults who were once in that situation.

Ah didn't see that bit. Teaches me for skimming! However I still disagree, their dad should send them something.

My DD dad rarely sees her due to distance but he always sends birthday card/presents and Christmas stuff too.

It is not up to the child to maintain contact.

DX2

tts42010 wrote: »

Ah didn't see that bit, thanks.

OP how do you make £5 strech so far?

Mock all you like love, the law is there for a reason and it has been used. Take away the compensation payment would you still mock if the NRP was only getting benefits.

DUTR

tts42010 wrote: »

Ah didn't see that bit. Teaches me for skimming! However I still disagree, their dad should send them something.

My DD dad rarely sees her due to distance but he always sends birthday card/presents and Christmas stuff too.

It is not up to the child to maintain contact.

Yes I agree there should be an exchange but there is no law that says the bloke should have to do all the running, and it's a lesson that is carried well into adult life for both sexes. It is not directly up to the child per se, but the PWC should encourage the relationship to be maintained, no point some complaining about the low amount of finacial support and lack of emotional support, when the impression is that person is not even worth a 50p card plus postage stamp and a bit of pen ink

DX2

tts42010 wrote: »

Ah didn't see that bit. Teaches me for skimming! However I still disagree, their dad should send them something.

My DD dad rarely sees her due to distance but he always sends birthday card/presents and Christmas stuff too.

It is not up to the child to maintain contact.

You cannot force someone to do something, that is up to an individual. One day he may be required to explain himself to his children but until that day there is nothing written in the law which states a NRP must provide Xmas/birthday cards/presents.